If You Miss The Single Life, Maybe You’re With The Wrong Guy

You went from single AF to dating to an actual relationship, but now you’re yearning to go back to the single life. You miss not having to check in with someone. You miss the freedom of flirting with whoever you want and not feeling guilty about it. Bottom line—you miss being alone, and if that’s the case, then maybe you’re with Mr. Wrong.

  1. There are so many women who would love to find a great guy. A guy just like the one you already have. You snagged one of the good ones and you don’t even want him, but some other girl does. If he’s not right for you, that’s okay as long as you throw him back so some other girl can scoop him up. He deserves real love as much as you do, don’t forget that.
  2. It’s time for you to figure out what you want. Do you want to be in a relationship or do you want to be single? Is he the guy you want to be with or would you be better suited to someone else? The clock is ticking so if he’s not the one don’t waste any more of his time—or yours. If you’re missing the single life, then don’t stay with a man you don’t truly want to be with. That’s just not fair.
  3. A relationship shouldn’t feel like a restraint. You’re not being held against your will here. You shouldn’t feel like you’re tied down and he’s holding you back. That doesn’t mean you just hate relationships. It means you’re in the wrong relationship because a good relationship should feel like heaven, not hell. So if you want to be free, be free — you’re not in this relationship against your will. You have a choice.
  4. If it’s not right, set him free. This isn’t just about you. This affects his life too, so consider him when you’re yearning for the single life. If you think you’re just wasting time together, then don’t let another second slip by. There are plenty of fish in the sea so throw him back for some other girl to catch while you go looking for another one yourself. He doesn’t deserve to be with a woman who isn’t really happy.
  5. Maybe you’re taking him for granted. If he’s a good boyfriend and you can’t help but daydream about the single life, then maybe you just don’t know how to appreciate what you have. You may not know what you’ve got until it’s gone, but that’s a lame excuse. Love the one you’re with and if you can’t do that, then move on to something else so that he’s free to do the same.
  6. If you want a boyfriend but not him specifically, then you shouldn’t stay. Would you miss him is he was gone or would you just miss certain aspects of being in a relationship? Is he the guy you actually want to be with or is he just the guy you’re with because you were sick of being alone? You can’t hang on to him just in case you never find anyone else. He deserves to be more than just your backup plan.
  7. The grass is always greener on the other side. It’s cliché but it’s only true in the lives of people who don’t know how to be happy. If he were really what you wanted, you’d know how to appreciate him. Maybe you thought he could make you happy, but the truth is no man can make you happy. You have to make yourself happy and until you do, the grass will always be greener on the other side no matter which side you choose.
  8. You should feel lucky to have found each other. If you don’t, then there’s obviously a problem (and a pretty big one at that) with your relationship. True love is rare and if you’re lucky enough to find it then you should count your blessings. If being with him doesn’t make you feel like you’ve won the lottery then it’s time to move on and hope for better luck with someone else.
  9. No matter what your age, you’re too young to settle. It’s a sad day when anyone chooses to settle for a relationship that makes them content rather than hold out for real love that will make them truly happy. You may be getting up there in years, but age is just a number, so don’t let in define your choices in life or in love.
  10. If he’s really “The One,” you wouldn’t be able to imagine life without him. Apparently, you can, though, so what does that tell you? If he were really “The One” then you wouldn’t be able to bear the thought a future that doesn’t include him. It really is that simple.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

You can find more about Kelsey on her LinkedIn profile or on Twitter @dykstrakelsey.