Mother-In-Law Sends ‘Christmas Card’ Instead Of Gift Listing Everything She Paid For Over The Past Year

One of the best parts of Christmas is giving gifts to the people you love and seeing their happy faces as they open them. It’s literally the season of giving, which is why it’s so obnoxious when people are miserly and Grinch-like around the holidays. Sadly, one mother-in-law is the epitome of an Ebenezer Scrooge and decided to send her son and daughter-in-law a Christmas card in lieu of gifts which list out all the things she paid for over the previous year.


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  1. TikTok user @sageandwine shared the experience on social media. “Toxic mother in law,” she captioned the video. “Not the first time she’s done this.” She then proceeded to show the front of a standard Christmas card that featured some lovely cardinals nestled in a snowy tree with the message “Season’s Greetings.” So far, that all seems great, right?
  2. The message inside seems a little unnecessary. In the voiceover, OP said, “So this is our toxic mother-in-law. I just want to preface this video by saying that there is no way you absolutely need to get a Christmas gift or give a Christmas gift.” Once she opens the card, you can see the list of things she said she’d paid for, including $112.40 for an Xfinity bill and $584.89 on an electricity bill.
  3. The mother-in-law “chooses just to repetitively do this type of behavior to my husband,” apparently. OP’s main complaint isn’t that her MIL felt like she’d spent enough the previous year or that she couldn’t afford to buy anything else, she the need to send an itemized list of everything she’d chipped in on over the previous year. Why try to make them feel like they owe her something?
  4. The daughter-in-law lost her job due to coronavirus. Like many people, @sageandwine revealed that she and her husband have been in a tough spot financially since she lost her job due to the pandemic. That’s why it stings even more that her MIL feeling the need to continually point out how she’s helping them out. “Basically she’ll say, ‘hey, throughout the year I’ve done things for you guys’ and y’know, she did those things when we lost our jobs due to Covid,” she said. So that was really amazing but she chooses to send a card, basically reminding, ‘Hey, you don’t get a gift because I’ve done all these other things’ when she literally could just, I don’t know, not give us one or just wish us a Merry Christmas.”

Sometimes mother-in-laws ARE really toxic.

Jennifer Still is a writer and editor with more than 10 years of experience. The managing editor of Bolde, she has bylines in Vanity Fair, Business Insider, The New York Times, Glamour, Bon Appetit, and many more. You can follow her on Twitter @jenniferlstill