My Annoyance With Dating “Nice Guys” Has Never Been More Real

I’m currently at a point in my life where marriage is more than a “thing people do,” it’s a thing I’d like to do pretty soon. That’s why I had to stop entertaining a-holes and focus my attention on well-groomed, well-mannered “nice guys.” The only problem? Nice guys kind of suck. I’m dating one right now and while I love him, he’s also really annoying.

  1. He Smiles Too Much. He’s always smiling. Even when nothing’s going on, he’s smiling! When we’re driving to dinner in silence, he’s behind the wheel smiling. He even sleeps with a big grin on his face and I know this because when I wake up in the middle of the night, the first thing I see is his lips parted in a smile. What the hell is he so happy about?!
  2. He Never Chimes In When I’m Bitching About Someone. I don’t spend a ton of time complaining about people, but when I’m pissed off at my friend or my parents for being annoying and I start moaning, he doesn’t chime in at all. He just listens, which is great. A guy who listens is rare and amazing, but sometimes I want him to chime in and say, “Yeah, that’s annoying” or “Yeah, she sucks.” I just want to feel like he’s on my side sometimes!
  3. He’s Not Direct. Th guy pretty much talks in circles. Listening to him is like listening to a lengthy abstract in an even lengthier book. He explains what he’s going to say before he actually says it and it’s so incredibly annoying. Sometimes I just want him to get the point before I’m dead.
  4. He Has A Set Plan For His Life. Nice guys are rarely, if ever, all over the place. I didn’t know my boyfriend when he was a kid but I bet he knew what he wanted to with his life before I knew how to flush the toilet. I know he wants to own a house in a year, get married in the next few years, have kids a right after, and live happily ever after. That’s his plan and I think that would still be his plan even if we broke up tomorrow.
  5. He’s Not The Most Confident. I’ve noticed a trend with nice guys having low self-esteem. I’m starting to wonder if the reason they’re so nice is that they feel like to have to make up for their not-so-good looks. Obviously I’m attracted to my boyfriend but I wasn’t automatically drawn to his looks the first time we met. His personality is what I fell in love with because he worked really hard to make sure I knew he was a nice guy. It seemed like that was the only way he thought I’d like him.
  6. He Turns Everything Into A Positive. He’s a happy go lucky kind of dude. He sees the positive in almost every situation he’s in. It’s actually an impressive talent—an impressively annoying talent. I know dwelling on the negative isn’t always great, but sometimes when you’re in a bad mood, all you want to do is focus on that bad mood, you know? He never lets me do that, though! He flips all my negative words around and gives me the upside to them all. I love it… but I also hate it.
  7. He’s Very Indecisive. This could be because of the whole insecure thing but he rarely makes decisions on his own. I’m the one who has to come up with all the ideas. Don’t get me wrong, I like being in charge in the relationship but I wish I didn’t always have to be the one to make plans. It’s exhausting and it sometimes makes me feel like I care more than he does.
  8. He Feels SO BAD When He Messes Up. Because he’s so nice, he rarely hurts people’s feelings, especially not my feelings. We’ve been dating for almost a year and we’ve only ever gotten into two serious fights. When we did fight, he felt horrible because he wasn’t used to people being mad at him. He brought me flowers, called me non-stop, and really went out of his way to make things right between us.
  9. He Likes To Stay In His Comfort Zone. Nice guys aren’t usually the most spontaneous, at least my guy isn’t. With that said, I’m not the most random person either. I’m a planner like him and that’s probably one of the reasons why our relationship works. Would it be nice if one day he came to me with plane tickets to New York? Yeah. But I probably wouldn’t go (unless the flight wasn’t for another three months and we had time to plan accordingly).
  10. Everyone Loves Him. Who doesn’t adore a nice guy? Everyone loves him and it’s infuriating. I don’t think he’d ever cheat on me, but his easy-going personality and genuine personality is attractive to girls and guys. I don’t love the fact that everyone tells me how good of a guy he is as if they wish they had him. Like, back the hell off. Don’t talk about my boyfriend, please. I know he’s nice, that’s why I’m with him. K, bye.
Jordan White is a writer based in Scottsdale, Arizona with more than 8 years of experience. She graduated from Northern Arizona University with a degree in Rhetoric and Creative Writing in 2015 and while there, she wrote for The Daily Wildcat. She has since written for sites including FanBread, and, of course, Bolde. You can find about more her on Facebook. She has a passion for giving her audience something to laugh about and despises the heat more than anything.