Everyone likes to hear nice things about themselves, which is why it sucks so much when your boyfriend never compliments you. Back when you first got together, he was constantly telling you how hot you are and how much he’s into you. These days, however, getting him to say something nice about you is like getting blood from a stone. Why does this happen and is there anything you can do to change it? Read on for some answers.
- He thinks you’re a bit needy. This likely isn’t the case and it’s kinda obnoxious if he does think this. You’re not “needy” because you want your boyfriend to say nice things to and about you and to reassure you that he’s into you semi-regularly. However, if you expect him to fawn over you 24/7 and get angry when he doesn’t, it could be that your boyfriend doesn’t want to compliment you anymore out of spite. If this is the case, you guys need to communicate and get this sorted out ASAP.
- He thinks you already know how he feels. It’s possible that he’s schtum on the compliment front because he thinks you should already know how he feels about you. He’s in a relationship with you, so in his eyes, that means you should know that he thinks you’re attractive, funny, smart, etc. Otherwise, why would you be together? This is a very simplistic way of thinking of course, but sometimes that’s how men’s brains work.
- He’s become complacent. It could be that your boyfriend never compliments you because he’s simply coasting along in the relationship. He’s “got” you, which means in his eyes, he no longer has to put in any effort. Not that it takes much effort to give someone a compliment, but hey, what do I know? If you notice that giving compliments aren’t the only area in which he’s lacking, this could very much be the case. He needs to shape up or ship out!
- He shows his feelings in other ways. Maybe he’s simply not that into voicing his feelings. People have different love languages, and it’s possible that your boyfriend shows how much he cares about you and how attracted to you he is in other ways. Think about the rest of your relationship as a whole. Do you feel loved and appreciated? Is the sex good? If it’s just the lack of verbal compliments you’re worried about, maybe it’s not quite so bad.
- He’s losing interest in the relationship. If this is happening, you know that things aren’t going to last much longer. This isn’t just about your boyfriend not giving you compliments, it’s about him no longer having feelings for you and/or not being invested in the relationship. It looks like a frank discussion needs to be had (and potentially a breakup).
