My Opinion: Most Men Aren’t Husband Material

My Opinion: Most Men Aren’t Husband Material ©iStock/Sjale

Most women I know do actually want a husband or a boyfriend, but finding that is easier said than done. After all, it’s hard to have a great relationship when the vast majority of men aren’t worth a damn. If you’re about to scoff about this, consider the writing on the wall…

  1. The fact that having a side chick is so widespread is a major problem. Our generation simply has a massive gap when it comes to infidelity. Guys see having two girls like a status symbol. On the other hand, if girls do it, we’re promiscuous. The truth is that men who would have a side chick deserve no chick at all.
  2. Guys have gotten increasingly demanding with looks. It’s all too common to hear guys bemoan how they can’t get a hot girl while they themselves bring little in terms of looks to the table.  The fact that men, who often look like troll dolls with pot bellies, will demand to have a solid dime is hypocrisy at its finest. They should learn to be more open-minded about looks. After all, most girls I’ve met will give a not-so-hot guy a shot if his personality is good.
  3. Statistically, women are more likely to be employed than men. This means that some guys can’t even put food on the table. Traditionally, that’s their job. While that could suggest more stay-at-home dads, statistics show that women still will also end up doing most of the work around the house, too. So, why would anyone marry someone who’s basically unable or unwilling to contribute anything? If he’s not working and not homemaking, he’s not worth it.
  4. Rudeness is at an unprecedented level. It’s true, and if you don’t believe it, just go on OKCupid and talk to some men. Generally speaking, men who are fine with being rude to women before a date even starts aren’t worth dating, marrying, or even speaking to.
  5. Our generation is plagued with the way that we’re always looking to “trade up.” We trade up jobs all the time. We trade up our iPhones, our furniture, and at times, even our friends. Sadly, our generation also tends to take this attitude with significant others. While this isn’t always a common sentiment, it happens frequently enough that certain guys just don’t realize what they had until they are old, alone, and traded out.
  6. Too many men out there have a major Peter Pan complex. Too many guys out there expect their parents to take care of them. When they’re out of the house, then they expect their girlfriends to take care of them. Unless you have a serious Florence Nightingale Syndrome at work, it’s pretty obvious why these guys aren’t good boyfriend material.
  7. The Nice Guy (TM) Complex is strong with too many guys out there. They’re sooooo nice… until you say no. Then they shriek in anger, call you a “friendzoning bitch” and can’t get why you won’t give nice guys like them a chance. NEXT!
  8. They’re insecure. For all the stuff so many men demand, millennial men tend to be exceptionally insecure. This just tends to open up an entire can of worms, ranging from slut-shaming to passive-aggressive behavior. Do women need this in their lives? Absolutely not.
  9. Some straight up just lost interest in a relationship. Some guys feel that there’s only loss to be had by getting into a relationship. They feel like women only want their money, or feel like there’s more to be had by just keeping it at booty calls with multiple women. They don’t want families, nor do they care about anything other than themselves. It’s sad, it’s crappy, and it tells volumes about the current state of how many men out there think. One can only wonder how that will work out for them 30 years from now…
  10. Men are way too entitled. We have to dodge guys who feel entitled to sex. We have to deal with men who think they deserve a supermodel when they have faces that look like feet. We have to deal with guys who call us shallow when we reject them for not even having a job going for them. Eff. That. Noise.

With the “winners” in the current dating pool, who can blame girls for staying single?

Ossiana Tepfenhart is a New Jersey based writer and editor with bylines in Mashed, Newsbreak, Good Men Project, YourTango, and many more. She’s also the author of a safe travel guide for LGBTQIA+ people available on Amazon.

She regularly writes on her popular Medium page and posts on TikTok and Instagram @ossianamakescontent.