Why You Should Cut Toxic People Out Of Your Life ASAP

Toxic people have a knack for worming their way into your life and taking over. It’s generally pretty obvious that these people are more trouble than they’re worth, but that doesn’t make it any easier to cut them off. Sure, they’re messing up your life, but they’re also your friend, partner, or relative. It’s difficult to toss that relationship away. But before you give them yet another chance to walk all over you, consider these 16 reasons to cut toxic people out of your life ASAP:

  1. It’s exhausting. Toxic people are constantly sucking up energy. They don’t respect your boundaries when you say you’re too tired for them. They will wear you out.
  2. They’re unreliable. Not only can you not rely on them to be around when you need them, but you also can’t depend on them to keep their act together when they are around. They tend to have emotional meltdowns for no apparent reason.
  3. The relationship is always one-sided. They aren’t actually interested in you and your life. They just fake it enough so they can continue to talk about themselves. As a friend or partner, they will always take and never give anything back.
  4. They’re manipulative. They will say and do just about anything to keep you around and doing what they want.
  5. It’s bad for your self-esteem. Toxic people will insult you, humiliate you, give you backhanded compliments, and make you feel like you deserve this crappy relationship. Get rid of them before they make you feel any worse than you do now.
  6. They’re constantly in crisis mode. It’s always one thing or another. Eventually you realize they’re blowing things out of proportion or causing the crisis themselves.
  7. They cause you anxiety and depression. Having a friend who treats you poorly can really affect your mental well-being. Are they really worth the anxious or depressed feelings?
  8. They’re ruining your good time. Their problems can never wait until tomorrow because they only care about themselves. They’ll ruin any good time you’re having if that means you’ll focus on their life instead.
  9. They’re sucking up all your free time. After dealing with a toxic person all day, you probably don’t have much time for anything else. All those hours could have been used bettering yourself instead of wasting time on a bad relationship.
  10. It’s isolating. You’re missing opportunities for other friendships because you’re investing too much time and energy into this one, and people won’t want to be involved with you when they see you and your toxic mate are a package deal. Additionally, your toxic person is probably actively trying to isolate you so they have you all to themselves.
  11. It sets a precedent about how you expect to be treated. People will think it’s OK to treat you poorly because they see you allowing this person to do it.
  12. They encourage you to do things that aren’t in your best interest. They don’t care if you suffer any negative consequences as long as they got what they want.
  13. You’ll feel stronger for dumping them. You can be in control. Getting the negativity out of your life will make you feel strong and empowered.
  14. You can’t help them anyway. Toxic people can’t be helped because they don’t want to change. They only make you feel like they need your help as a manipulative way to keep you around.
  15. They won’t mourn the relationship. Don’t beat yourself up over ending this relationship because the toxic person won’t mourn it at all. They’ll be too busy finding the next person to leach on to.
  16. You deserve peace and happiness. You have the right to protect yourself from unnecessary negativity, crisis, depression, and anxiety by cutting toxic people out of your life. Because you actually do deserve some peace and happiness.
Holly Harris is a freelance writer, full time student, and mommy to a toddler sass monster. In her (nearly nonexistent) free time, you can find her lifting something heavy in her home gym or chugging vodka sodas with friends. She contributes to several other sites, including Elite Daily.