Looking for love can be a lengthy and exhausting process. While some people seem to fall into loving relationships easily and without much effort, others find it incredibly difficult to find “The One.” Finding love that will last takes time and patience, but it’ll be worth it in the end.
- You want a marathon, not a sprint. Sometimes we feel like love is the be all, end all of our existence —especially as we get older and it seems to be shoved in our faces from all directions. But some people just aren’t meant for an easy journey to forever, and you don’t want to hurry the process by sprinting through the finish line. You want the marathon — the one you train for, sweat for, and the one that will feel gruelingly satisfying at the finish line.
- You don’t want to just settle. Being in a hurry for a relationship can cause you to make crappy choices about who you date, because you’re more likely to take just about anyone who seems decent enough to avoid the feelings of loneliness. You’re better than that, and you deserve better.
- You need to go through challenges to appreciate the end reward. You’ve heard the quote, “Life only gives its hardest battles to its toughest soldiers.” You’ll be wounded in battle, and you’ll think you can’t go any further, but during that fight you’re going to learn a lot about yourself. Embrace it and take the lessons forward with you, because they’ll only make what you have to give that much stronger.
- Rushing through anything never gets the best results. When have you ever rushed anything and gotten the absolute best results you’re capable of? The longer you wait, the purer the love will feel. There’ll be nothing obstructing your logic if you’ve spent real time and effort on holding out for the results you truly want.
- You’ve got time. I know it seems like your time is running out and that you’ve got to lock things down soon, but that’s not the case. These days, it’s not uncommon to see people finally meeting their perfect match well into their 30s. Stop feeling like you need to satisfy timetables or feeling like you’ve failed somewhere along the way. You haven’t failed. As long as you’re still breathing, you have plenty of time, and you’ll get there.
- Patience will make you stronger. It’s true that patience is a virtue, and although it’s excruciatingly hard to practice at times when it comes to love, it only makes you stronger in the process. When you’re patient, you have more time to appreciate the moments as they are instead of living in a constant state of anxiety about the future, and that can only make the love you’re waiting for feel even better when it finally arrives.
- You already have love. If you really think about it, we all have love in our lives, even if it’s not necessarily with a boyfriend or the husband you’re hope for. You’ve got the love of your friends, your family, and your own love for yourself in the meantime. Never diminish the importance of that.