First dates may suck, but figuring out how to end the evening is a special kind of hell. Should you promise to text the other person again soon, just say goodbye and walk away or what? What if you don’t feel the same way as your date, for better or worse? Ending a date can be awkward, but it shouldn’t have to be.
- We know how we feel. So why don’t other people? We can leave the bar knowing whether or not someone is getting a second chance and we think that they should make up their minds just as quickly. If they seem to be on the fence, all we know is that we definitely don’t see a future with them because we’re not going to settle for someone who’s wishy-washy.
- We need an answer. If there’s going to be another date, we need to know now. The other person has to tell us that this was fun and they want to do it again. If they want to make it super obvious that there’s zero future here, they don’t have to be rude or blunt — they can say, “It was nice to meet you, take care” and we promise we’ll get the hint. We’re all adults here (hopefully).
- We’re over the rudeness. No one should never walk away from a date without saying goodbye or think that a simple wave is enough. We’re done with the crappy ways people end dates and think it’s time that they figure out how to treat us with some decency and respect, whether they had fun or not.
- It shouldn’t be so confusing. Here’s the deal: if someone likes us, they should tell us. If they don’t, don’t. Since when did common sense go out the window?
- Lying does not need to enter the picture. When someone says “see you soon” when heading into the subway or says they want to go out again, call us crazy, but we’re going to believe them. It’s time to stop lying to us about the possibility of another date if that’s not what they really want.
- There are literally two options. It’s not like first dates were magically invented last week. They’ve been around since forever, and people have known how to properly end dates for that long. People always have two options: mention a second date or say it was nice to meet us. We totally know what they mean by each statement.
- We hate the in-person ghosting. When we get up the courage to tell someone we had a good time and they simply shrug or don’t answer, that’s shady. No one should be that person. Everyone deserves the human decency of a real response. It’s like being ghosted IRL while staring at the person who’s ghosting you. Not super fun.
- It’s time to be a grown up. It’s one thing to be shy about suggesting a second hang-out because someone’s afraid of rejection, and it’s entirely another to chicken out of ending the date properly. Be an adult and tell us you’d like to see us again if you actually do. Nothing bad will happen, promise.
