Never Beg A Guy To Stay With You—You’ll Always Regret It

We’ve all been there: you like him, he doesn’t like you as much (or at all in that way), which makes him decide to walk away from you. Whether you’ve only been dating a month or in a full-blown relationship for five years, here’s why you have to let him keep on walking.

You’re worth more than that. 

There’s no guy on God’s green earth that’s worth crying over, never mind worth begging to stay. It’s the 21st century, for goodness’ sake! Powerful, independent women don’t need a man at all to be successful in all their endeavors, let alone one who doesn’t even want to be with her.

You’re too old for that BS.

Gone are the days where you used to have so little self-worth that you worried your life wouldn’t be fulfilled without a guy in it. You’ve grown up since then. You know you survived perfectly fine before this dude came on the scene and you know you’ll survive perfectly fine when he leaves it too. After all, you’re stronger than you think.

Who’s to say that he’s not just playing games? 

Sure, the guy in question might mean it when he says he’s walking away, but he actually might not. Who knows these days? The opposite sex is like a closed book. We’ll never be able to work them out. If he’s saying he wants to leave one minute and then completely changing his mind the next, I’d be super wary if I was you. In fact, I’d run a mile. 

Either way, you have to respect his decision.

If he’s being serious and he’s given you a list of valid reasons of why he wants to break up, at the end of the day, you have to respect that. Breakups are difficult for everybody involved and you wouldn’t be making it any easier on anyone if you were begging him to stay with you all the time.

If you don’t give him space, you’ll make the situation worse. 

If you bombard him with texts, Snapchats, Facebook messages, phone calls, and house drop-ins, it’s unlikely that you’re going to change his mind about his decision. In fact, you could end up pushing him away even more. Confused people often need space and time to work out what’s going on in their heads, and if you don’t allow the guy to have that, he’s going to resent you forever.

It makes you come across as needy.

You’re not usually needy, so don’t start now. I know it’s incredibly hard when you’re fond of someone and you’ve had a great time together, but sometimes it just doesn’t work out. That’s life. It’s better to know now than further on down the line. My advice is to walk away with your head held high and don’t sacrifice your character for the sake of your feelings.

It gives you the opportunity to reinvent yourself. 

Look at it this way: now you have time to focus on yourself and strengthen your relationships with friends and family. Take all the energy you were using trying to keep your relationship going and disperse it among your loved ones, as well as yourself. See this whole thing as a learning curve and a valuable experience that’s going to get you to where you want to be in life. Needless to say, it doesn’t all have to be negative.

You deserve to be with someone who wants you back. 

If you think about it, the guy in question has actually done you a massive favor. I mean, who wants to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with them? Exactly—nobody. You deserve to be with a guy who chooses you every single day—and now you have the availability to find a teammate, instead of a subordinate. Winning.

You never know what the future holds. 

Things often have a funny way of working out sometimes. Who can say—maybe you’ll end up back with this guy once he’s sorted out his priorities… or maybe you won’t. Either way, don’t sweat it—you’re going to be a lot happier giving your all to yourself instead of a guy who doesn’t deserve it. You’re enough on your own. Don’t forget it.

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