I Could Never Date A Guy Who Doesn’t Love Food As Much As I Do

I don’t care if being a foodie is kind of pretentious — I can’t help but love food. Cooking and going out for dinner are two of my favorite things in the world, and that’s probably always going to be the case. That means that food is a big part of my life, and my dating life as well. Here’s why I could never date a guy who doesn’t love food as much as I do:

  1. Food is a huge part of life. It’s kind of hard to survive without it. You can try, but it probably won’t go too well. It’s just weird if someone isn’t totally into food considering how important it is (and how delicious it is). If I met a guy who found food boring, I would be confused AF.
  2. Most dates revolve around meals. My ideal second date scenario is going for dinner — preferably somewhere casual that still has killer burgers and fries. If a guy couldn’t care less about food, that’s going to make a second date pretty awkward and pretty horrible. I don’t want to be the only one eating and enjoying my food. When things get more serious, it’s pretty common to cook dinner together. It would be a shame to miss out on that bonding opportunity.
  3. I will travel for food. When I plan a weekend getaway or longer trip, I want to know what kind of restaurants there are or what the grocery options are if I’m going to be cooking some of my own meals. I can’t imagine having a boyfriend and not being able to travel to foodie cities with him.
  4. I’m a cookbook (and food magazine) addict. Visit my apartment and you’ll find my (admittedly a bit excessive) cookbook collection… along with all the food mags I’ve bought over the years. Reading about food and looking at pretty pictures is one of my all-time favorite things to do. It would suck if I couldn’t share that with the guy I was dating.
  5. I think about food 24/7 thanks to my food allergies. As someone who can’t eat gluten or dairy or too much sugar, it’s safe to say that food pretty much runs my world. Even though this might seem super depressing, it’s actually the total opposite. Having allergies has inspired me to learn to cook and become healthier, and I would have a hard time not talking about these things with my partner.
  6. The best holidays are food holidays. Arguably the best thing about being in a relationship is sharing the holidays with each other’s families. In my world, the best holidays are ones that are all about food, and that’s never going to change. I make finding new desserts to make for Thanksgiving my full-time job. If my boyfriend was content to just sit on the sidelines and shrug about the menu, I wouldn’t love that.
  7. Sharing a meal is about more than the food. Sure, I wait eagerly for my dad’s brisket at Passover and my grandma could make a cardboard box taste like a gourmet dinner. And yet sharing a meal is about feeling less alone, bonding with other people, and becoming closer. It would be super strange not to be able to do that with the guy that I’ve chosen to call my boyfriend.
  8. My entire social circle is full of foodies. One of my BFFs is a vegan who adores cooking everything from scratch and another friend picks restaurants based on where she can get a nice steak. My friends and I love sharing stories over junk food and wine and my family talks about the next meal while still eating breakfast or lunch. I definitely want to be able to bring someone into my world.
  9. Dating is hard enough when two people have things in common. If it’s hard to make things work with a guy that loves pop culture as much as I do, how can I make things work with someone I don’t have much in common with? Since dating can be such a rocky road, I don’t really want to try. Loving food is usually an easy way to find common ground with someone new and I’m not about to give that up.
  10. I would wonder what else he was apathetic about. It’s one thing to not love cooking and it’s another to not love food at all.  If a guy isn’t into food, there must be a reason, and it’s probably a super strange one. What else is he apathetic about? Is he just lazy in general? With all the twists and turns of modern dating, I’m not about to go down that road. So if someone doesn’t share my love of food, I won’t be dating them. It’s that simple.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.