Never Date A Guy Who Exhibits These 11 Signs — He’ll Just Break Your Heart

Being blindsided by heartbreak is never fun, but how are you supposed to see it coming? Some dating disasters really do hit you from out of the blue, but if the guy you’re with is doing any of these things, take it as a clear sign that the best thing he’s going to give you is a tough lesson.

  1. He texts you more than he actually hangs out with you. Despite how far technology has come, you can’t have an entire relationship via text messaging. If he doesn’t want to actually be with you in person, then don’t excuse his absence with a busy schedule. You have a busy life too. If this relationship were really going somewhere, nothing would stand in his way from making the time to see you.
  2. He’ll see you in private, but never in public. If he’s not bringing you out in public, then there’s a reason for it — and that reason is never good. Whether he’s not interested in a real relationship, cheating on your (or someone else), or just plain ashamed of you, you don’t deserve to be the skeleton in his closet. So stop being his dirty little secret before he gets the chance to break your heart.
  3. He wants to hook up with you more than he wants to hang out with you. This should be easy to spot because your gut feeling is already going to make you wonder about his motives when you never spend any real time together. He only calls you when he’s horny, and that means he only thinks of you as another warm body. You’re nothing special to him, so unless you’re okay with being a booty call, tell him to hit the bricks.
  4. He thinks all of his exes are crazy. Once upon a time, they were something special to him just like you are now, but for some reason, the fairy tale didn’t last. He swears all of his exes are psycho, but in reality, he can’t face that he’s part of the problem. The truth is, he’s just a heartbreaker, and every time a woman holds him responsible for that, he simply labels her insane.
  5. He has time for everything and everyone but you. He might claim that he’s just plain busy, but his social media says otherwise. He’s out at the bar every weekend hanging with his bros and all sorts of women who aren’t you. He has time for his friends and his family, but there’s no time left for you.
  6. He airs your dirty laundry. You should never be with a guy who makes every private fight you have a public ordeal. The guy can’t seem to keep your business to himself because he’s constantly taking a public opinion poll. It’s petty, but the truth is this guy cares more about his image than he does about you. If you can’t trust him to keep your private life private, then you can’t trust him with your heart.
  7. He won’t make plans until the very last minute. It’s pretty obvious a “relationship” with a guy like this is only going to end in heartbreak. The truth is he’s waiting for something better to come along, and if it doesn’t, then and only then is he going to hit you up. You’re his last-minute last resort to salvage his evening, and you deserve so much better than that.
  8. He’s afraid of commitment. Whatever his excuse is, it’s just plain BS. It’s not that he can’t commit right now — it’s that he won’t ever commit to you. He’s just stringing you along because deep down he doesn’t actually want to be with you. If he were the right guy, he’d want to define the relationship, but honestly, he’s just not that interested.
  9. He doesn’t care about your orgasm. If he doesn’t care about pleasing yo,u then he just plain doesn’t care about you. Sex isn’t just about men. You deserve your finish just as much as he does. When he doesn’t care about your orgasm, though, it’s clear that he’s only in this relationship for himself. He only needs you for his pleasure, and it’s going to hurt when you realize he doesn’t want anything else.
  10. He guards his phone like his life depends on it. If the guy you’re seeing is hiding his phone, you can bet he’s keeping a hell of a lot locked up on that little device. Normal guys will forget their phone on the table and or even at your house every once in awhile, but beware of the man who can’t even take a piss without picking up his cell.
  11. He makes promises he knows he can’t keep. Don’t keep forgiving a guy who just keeps lying to you. A man is nothing without his word, and you deserve more than nothing. If a guy says he’ll be there, then he needs to be there. He needs to follow through. If you can’t trust him to keep his promises then you can’t trust him to do anything other than break your heart.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

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