You Never Gave Me A Real Chance And Trust Me, You’ll Regret It

We met and we clicked. There was no denying it. But then after a few amazing dates and countless hours of conversation, you flipped a switch. I don’t know what happened, and even though I’ve tried getting to the bottom of it, I’m still left wondering. But in the end, this is why you’re the one who’s going to end up losing sleep over what might’ve been:

  1. I adored you. Even when you acted a bit rude or got moody, I still really liked you. I knew you were someone I was in real trouble with when it came to love. You would have been on the receiving end of nothing but real love and affection had you actually given me the chance to give it to you.
  2. I’m loyal as can be when people deserve it. After hearing about your past heartbreak, I knew you deserved someone who would treat your heart with grace and fragility. And had you chosen me to be the one to do it, you would’ve been so safe with me. But you didn’t. And now you’ve lost your chance at true loyalty from someone who would’ve really cared about you.
  3. You weren’t the only one who was scared. I’ve had my heart shredded too, and usually I avoid dating and love at all costs because I know that giving someone that power is a really hard thing to do. The thing is, I didn’t let that fear stop me because I thought you were worth it. And the sad thing is, I know I’m worth it, too. You’ll eventually realize what a mistake it was to let fear rule you when it came to me.
  4. I’m a catch. I’ve got my act together, and I’m still not done growing. I’m the perfect example of what “girlfriend material” is, and so when you said that’s what you were looking for, I was thrilled. The unfortunate thing about this, though, is that you aren’t willing to let anyone in. So now, you’re going to miss out on all I could have given you.
  5. Our connection was real. And that almost never happens. We had both the physical and emotional chemistry that relationships need to thrive. You even said it yourself, but still weren’t ready to jump in with both feet. You’ll regret that when you have a hard time finding a connection like that again.
  6. I don’t date for the sake of dating. You could’ve been damn sure that I wanted you for you and not just to have a boyfriend. I’d rather be alone than with someone I don’t truly adore, so for me to lay it all out on the table for you was huge for me. And it would have been huge for you, too.
  7. I’m a bona fide relationship girl. When I get in a relationship with someone I truly like, I’m in it for the long haul. I don’t start something up for the sake of it, because I’m looking for my forever. You could have been certain that you would’ve always had someone in your corner if you had me.
  8. I really did try. It wasn’t as if I was putting in no effort at all and waiting for you to make your move. I made my feelings crystal clear to you as soon as I realized them myself. At the time, I thought it was the right thing to do. For someone to try as hard as I did, even at the beginning, shows just how much you lost by not giving me a real chance.
  9. The devotion I showed should have been reason enough. Our connection and the amount of fun we had together would have been enough for most people to start something. In addition to that, the devotion I showed you, even before we started dating, should’ve given you good insight into what I’d do for you if given the chance.
  10. I gave you too much credit. In the end, you underestimated me. I didn’t give too much of myself too soon because I had to wait to see if I could trust you like you could trust me. You really seemed like someone worthy of all the greatness I have to offer in a relationship. Unfortunately, though, it seems you were too good to be true.
Angelica Bottaro has a bachelor’s degree in Psychology from Trent University and an Advanced Diploma in Journalism from Centennial College. She began her career as a freelance writer in 2014, racking up bylines in The Good Men Project, MakeWell, LymeTime, YouQueen, and more. She eventually shifted her focus and began writing about mental health, nutrition, and chronic disease for VeryWell Health.

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