Never Settle— It’s Better To Be On Your Own Than With A Guy Who Doesn’t Make You Happy

When you leave behind yet another almost relationship or wonder for the millionth time why you’re still single, it’s easy to think that settling is totally an option. You never want to be that girl and yet it’s so tempting to just say yes to any guy that asks you out and keep seeing him and be done with it. Sadly, that’s just going to bring you more misery than anything else. Here are 10 reasons you’re better off single than with a guy who is completely wrong for you:

  1. You can’t force a guy to want a relationship with you. You can be super careful not to text a new guy too much or be too clingy and he can still tell you that he wants something casual and that’s it. You can’t make a guy want to be your boyfriend, and that’s something that is always going to be super true. Instead of wishing that you could kiss your single status goodbye, why not remember that when you do meet the right guy, he’ll move things forward and it’ll feel simple and natural?
  2. Your friends and family will take on the burden. It’s easy to think that your relationship as only involving you and your boyfriend. While it definitely does, the people in your life have to deal with the person that you choose to be with as well… and if you’re in a crappy situation, guess who has to put up with it? The worst part is that your friends and fam might not even tell you how much they hate your BF because they don’t want to upset you and, let’s face it, it’s awkward AF. It’s so much better to wait for a legit guy that everyone will adore just as much as you do.
  3. You’ll actually enjoy being single. You might not think that, especially if you’re sick of being alone watching TV in your apartment all the time, but it’s honestly the truth. Once you get over the hurdle of rolling solo, you’ll look forward to the quiet times and you’ll appreciate all the good things that your life has to offer. Sure, there’s nothing wrong with wanting to find love, and you can absolutely still dream of the amazing guy that you want to meet. You’ll just have a smile on your face more often than not, which will feel a lot better than being miserable just because you don’t have a boyfriend at the moment.
  4. You’ll hate yourself for settling. Sounds harsh but that’s the honest truth. You’re an amazing, strong, independent woman, and that means that you can’t be with just anyone. You have to be with the right person who is truly worthy of you. It’s always going to worth sticking out a few more months or even years of solo life for that.
  5. You’ll miss out on the pure bliss of the right relationship. When you finally meet a guy who is everything that you want and even more, there is honestly nothing like it. It’s like you’re both in the middle of the honeymoon period but it lasts much longer than three to six months. Every time you kiss him, you feel like you’re starring in your own romantic comedy and every regular hang-out feels like a party. Why would you miss out on that bliss and happiness and romance just to say that you have a boyfriend?
  6. Staying with the wrong person just isn’t fair to them. It’s not exactly fair to be in a relationship with someone because you don’t want to be alone. It’s definitely not fair to stay despite your gut instinct that he’s not good for you. Sure, the wrong guy can be a total jerk, but maybe he’s a decent person but just not right for you. There’s a pretty big difference.
  7. You’ll regret wasting your own time. At the end of the day, you have to think about yourself and what you want for your own life, and if you stay in a dead-end relationship, you’re going to waste a lot of time. And, cheesy AF as it sounds, that’s the one thing that you can’t get back. You definitely don’t want that.
  8. You’ll be so preoccupied you’ll forget about your dreams and goals. Being in a bad relationship is super distracting. You won’t be living your best life or being your best self. That’s going to affect your goals, whether you want to eat healthily and work out or build your freelance business. You’ll be unhappy in literally every single way if you stay with a guy who’s all wrong for you.
  9. Things will probably end eventually. If you date the wrong guy, eventually one of you will realize that and get out. While you definitely can’t predict every bad thing that’s going to happen to you in life, it’s much better to see ASAP that someone is all wrong. Otherwise, you’ll find yourself getting dumped and wondering why you even dated this person for as long as you did. It’s not a great place to be in. If you can avoid that crappy feeling, why wouldn’t you?
  10. You have so much time to meet your person. It totally doesn’t feel like that when your last single BFF is coupled up and when you keep getting wedding invites or seeing engagement pics on Instagram. And yet it’s totally true. So many women stay single forever and then, bam, they’re in love and it’s for real. Remember that and it’ll happen to you, too.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.