There’s No Mystery In My Relationship & I Wouldn’t Have It Any Other Way

There’s No Mystery In My Relationship & I Wouldn’t Have It Any Other Way ©iStock/Geber86

I’ve been married to my husband for 10 years and throughout the relationship, we’ve lived by one simple rule: we don’t keep secrets from one another. Now, before you panic and think, “OMG! There’s no mystery or romance in their relationship,” I’m going to prove you wrong. There are hundreds of reasons why you shouldn’t be afraid to share every detail with your partner.

  1. Embarrassment Is a Waste: Women fart. Women also poop, sweat, and make weird sounds. We get sick, we look gross sometimes, but who cares? We’re human, just like the guys we’re with. Being embarrassed by your normal body functions might be okay in public, but at home, you shouldn’t have to worry about it. If you can’t be you with your partner, you’re going to eventually get tired of hiding and give up. Don’t do that. Instead, don’t keep secrets.
  2. The Truth Brings You Closer: You might have a few major secrets that you’ve never told anyone before and you might think it’s better to keep those in, but you’re wrong. Telling the truth and being honest can be one of the most freeing things you can do for your relationship. The reality is that if your partner can’t get past your history, they’re not right for you anyway.
  3. Pretending to Be Perfect Is Exhausting: I hate being “on” all the time. I just want to be me, flaws and struggles and all. I can’t be that with everyone, but I can be that with my husband, and it’s a wonderful feeling. He loves me for me, even when I make mistakes. You don’t have to be single to stop giving a f*ck about perfection. Talk about cutting through the crap.
  4. You Can Stop Worrying: There’s nothing that can drive a relationship into the ground quicker than secrets. If you’re hiding something from your lover, it can ruin everything. Even if they never find out, your actions will always be in response to the secret, and they’ll know something is up. Just watch a few episodes of Suits if you don’t believe me.
  5. Getting Caught Sucks: Have you ever been caught lying? Yeah. You know how that feels. It can destroy a relationship in the blink of an eye. But if you learn to tell everything to your spouse, you never have to worry about getting caught with your pants down, unless that’s what you’re into.
  6. Conflict Can Be Good: Being honest about everything, even the dark things, can be tough, but that’s okay. Sometimes getting into a fight and hashing things out can be a good thing. It’s good to dive headfirst into sticky situations and to work them out. Your relationship will end up stronger.
  7. You Never Have to Wonder: If you have a relationship policy that you tell each other everything, you never have to wonder what he/she isn’t saying. It keeps things simple, honest, and open, so you don’t end up alone, singing a Taylor Swift song.
  8. It Doesn’t Mean You Have To Say Everything. Being honest doesn’t mean being purposely hurtful. You don’t need to tell your partner everything that pops into your mind; you’re still your own person. So if you see a hot guy, obviously you don’t need to mention it. There’s also no need to tell your lover that you hate the way they laugh or walk. Those are things that they can’t change, so you either need to get over it or move on.
Kelly Vo is a freelance writer based in Denver, Colorado. She specializes in both creative and technical writing and can be found publishing articles about wellness, business, cannabis (find her in Dope Magazine), freelancing, and life as a 30-year-old. She's a voracious reader, adrenaline junkie, world traveler, and proud husky momma whoe graduated summa cum laude from ASU with a degree in English: Creative Writing.