No One Likes Getting Played, But It’s Better Than Being A Player

When you fall for someone and then get treated like a toy, it’s easy to get down on yourself. You might start wondering where  you went wrong or how you allowed yourself to be so naive. But even though being played can really mess with your head, this is why it’s much better than being the player:

  1. Players are just bad people. It sucks to get screwed over, but at least when that happens, you know that you did what you could to treat the other person with respect and dignity. You aren’t a selfish piece of crap just trying to get some, unlike the guy who treated your love like it was a game.
  2. If you got played, it means you still trust people. Deep down, someone who’s willing to lie and manipulate to get what they want is a very disturbed person. They can’t trust anyone, so they subconsciously go above and beyond to make sure that they can’t be trusted either. Be happy that you’re still able to see the good in people even if you feel a bit foolish or naive after you get hurt.
  3. The one that gets played is usually more authentic. You allowed yourself to be vulnerable even at the risk of getting hurt. The player, on the other hand, has to fake who he is to get what he desires. Even though it sucks to have been lied to, you can at least take some comfort knowing that you never had to pretend to be someone you weren’t.
  4. Getting hurt is better than hurting someone else. At least you don’t have to carry around any guilt for destroying another human being. You might be hurting when you someone toys with your emotions, but you’ll get over it. The damage of guilt can last a much longer time than the damage of getting hurt by someone else.
  5. Players don’t always win. It may appear that the player always gets what he wants, but the truth is that he’ll always get his comeuppance. You might not be around to see it, but at least if you’re the one getting the wool pulled over your eyes by someone you cared about, you won’t have to wait for the bad karma to come and kick you in your ass.
  6. There’s nothing wrong with getting hurt. There is, however, something seriously wrong with intentionally hurting another person. There’s nothing cool or admirable about it. A person that’s willing to play someone else isn’t cooler or smarter than someone who allows it to happen — they’re just a crappier kind of human being.
  7. Being able to manipulate people isn’t enviable. In fact, it’s actually a really sad talent to possess. Having a personality trait that entices someone to treat other people like crap is something a player should feel ashamed of, not proud of. If you got played, you can hold your head high knowing that you were honest from the beginning to the end.
  8. Players lack integrity. In a world where honor is slipping to the wayside more quickly than ever before, holding onto it is something a person should be proud of. Even if you watch way too many chick flicks and nearly drown in ice cream after someone treats you like a fool, you still have more integrity than he does.
  9. Selfishness isn’t hot. It may seem that the player gets all the dates, but that’s only because he acts as though he’s the biggest catch around. It might work for him for a while, but he’ll eventually realize that more women want guys who are caring and compassionate. In today’s day and age, those kinds of personality traits are in short supply whereas guys like him are a dime a dozen.
  10. Players are cowards. These jerks have the emotional maturity of a Goldfish cracker, and that’s the main reason why they don’t let themselves feel anything for anyone. If you were brave enough to put yourself out there and trust someone, you already have more courage than the guy who screwed you over and then ran away.
  11. Players will always end up alone. Someone who gets manipulated into love over and over again may get hurt more often, but they’ll eventually find the love of their life. The one that hurts people over and over again, however, will never be able to truly love another person. That’s one hell of a miss when it comes to life and love.
Angelica Bottaro has a bachelor’s degree in Psychology from Trent University and an Advanced Diploma in Journalism from Centennial College. She began her career as a freelance writer in 2014, racking up bylines in The Good Men Project, MakeWell, LymeTime, YouQueen, and more. She eventually shifted her focus and began writing about mental health, nutrition, and chronic disease for VeryWell Health.

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