There’s No Pause Button On My Relationships — If You Need A Break, We’re Done

“Taking a break” when things get tough in a relationship or you start getting restless is the most ridiculous idea I’ve ever heard. Isn’t that just a breakup? If I don’t matter enough for you to want to work things out, you can take all the break you need — just know that I won’t be waiting around.

  1. I have better things to do than wait. I have a life too, and while you’re a big part of it, I can’t neglect the rest of it while you figure out whether or not you care about our relationship. Why should I just sit around waiting for you to call or text? How long does this break last, anyway? I have plans for my life, and waiting around for you to come to your senses isn’t one of them.
  2. Taking a break just means you’re not ready. If you need a break that badly, it just means you’re not ready to be in a relationship with me. I don’t have the time or patience to wait for you to pull up your big boy pants and deal with a mature relationship. Sorry, but I’m moving on to bigger and better things.
  3. If I’m that hard to be around, it’s better if I leave. If you can’t figure out things with me, I guess that just means I’m too difficult to be around. If that’s the case, just let me leave now and save us both time. Obviously, we’re not working out, and some magic break isn’t going to fix things.
  4. You’re either all in or all out. I don’t need someone being all wishy-washy about what they want in a relationship. I need a guy who’s either all in or all out. Don’t make me keep guessing. I’d rather we just break up so I can find someone who knows what they want. Maybe you’ll find someone new on your break who you’re better suited for.
  5. Please don’t be too weak to dump me. Taking a break is just code for “we’re breaking up soon.” Don’t just leave me hanging while hoping I dump you first. If you want out, just tell me. It might hurt, but it’ll be a lot better than wondering why you wanted to take a break in the first place. Don’t worry, I’ll make things easy for you — I’m out.
  6. How many more breaks will you need? If we’re taking a break now, what does that mean for the future? Is every little fight or issue going to mean more breaks? I’m pretty sure all these breaks aren’t any different than me being single. I might as well go back to the single life instead of dealing with one break after another.
  7. We’re supposed to work through issues together. You do get the entire point of a relationship, right? We’re supposed to work through our issues together. I’m okay with giving you some space, but don’t give me the whole “we need a break” BS. Let me know you’re stressed out and I won’t push you. If we can’t work through things together, we don’t need to be together.
  8. I don’t need the drama you’ll bring back. You know what breaks bring: drama. It’s this weird period in a relationship where neither one of us knows what the other is doing. I’m not waiting around for a dump truck load of drama to be dropped in my lap. This isn’t high school, and I’ve moved on from childish games like “breaks.”
  9. We both know you just want to explore other options. Do you think I’m stupid? You just want an excuse to cheat. Unless you actually break up with me, we’re still a couple. Taking a break doesn’t give you a free pass to sleep with anyone you want. I’m not into open relationships, so maybe I should just end this now and let you have all the freedom you want.
  10. We’re just going to break up anyway. Stop delaying the inevitable. A break just means we’re breaking up sooner or later. I’d rather get it over with and move on with my life. We’re not fixing anything while we’re on this little break; we’re just making our issues worse. I’m just going to be on my way and say it’s over.
  11. I’m more mature when it comes to love. Breaks are for those who are too childish and immature for a relationship. I guess I’m just more mature when it comes to love. I don’t want to play games. I want someone who knows what they want. I want maturity and that’s not too much to ask.
  12. What about how I feel? Did you even think about how I’d feel about a break? Leaving me behind while you figure things out is just going to stress me out and make me feel like crap. That’s not fair to me. I’m happy to talk about things, but I need you to actually be here. If you can’t respect my feelings any better than this, forget it. Your break means I’m gone permanently.
Crystal Crowder is a freelance writer and blogger. She's a tech geek at heart, but loves telling it like it is when it comes to love, beauty and style. She's enjoys writing music, poetry and fiction and curling up with a great book. You can find her on Twitter @ccrowderwrites or check out her other writing on Medium.