There’s No Such Thing As Being “Too Eager”—The Right Person Won’t Mind

You’ve met someone and you’re psyched about them. You think they’re totally cool and you’re really into them. What’s the next move? Don’t listen to conventional advice that tells you to play it cool and act uninterested. Show how excited you are! I promise it’ll be worth it.

  1. Games are the absolute worst. Who wants to play games or be played by them? They’re so confusing and exhausting and you left the playground behind years ago. All they do is make a mess of the matter and no one really wins. The person on the receiving end of the game gets heartbroken or just puzzled and the one on the giving end likely feels bad at some point.
  2. If you’re into someone, let them know. Don’t be shy when it comes to telling someone your feelings about them. They won’t know until you tell them and who knows, maybe they’ll reciprocate. If not, you’ll be OK too. It’s just great to put yourself out there, it may really pay off. They probably want to know either way! You’re only putting yourself through a struggle for no reason by not showing your excitement.
  3. Don’t worry about looking dumb. I know this is a big fear of many people, particularly because it used to be one of mine. It’s scary to be eager because you’re really putting yourself out there and there’s a chance that you might “look dumb,” whatever that means. This is just your ego talking because God forbid you look like a human with all your glorious imperfections.
  4. It’s hot to be confident about your feelings. Not only will the right person appreciate you being honestly eager, but they’ll also likely think it’s sexy. Confidence is a very attractive quality and if you have enough of it to show your excitement, it’ll likely be greeted warmly. Vulnerability is also attractive to many people (the right people who are healthy, at least). So put it out there and conquer your fear.
  5. The right person will likely match your eagerness. When someone comes around who’s a good match and worth your time, they’ll be right there with you showing their excitement. They won’t leave you hanging, feeling like you’re the only one who’s all-in. No, they’ll be just as eager and it’ll feel totally awesome. You’ll be surprised by how vulnerable they make themselves, making it easier for you to open up.
  6. You’re a strong and lovely person no matter what. No matter what the outcome of telling someone you like them, you’re a boss. Don’t forget that. You are super strong and lovely no matter how another person reacts to you. Be sure to not let their reaction affect your self-esteem because that’s unshakeable.
  7. If they’re not into you, move on. After putting it all out there for the person you like, if they continue to play games with you, be sure to get the heck out of there. You don’t need to be groveling for anyone. There will be plenty of people who will want you. No need to waste time on someone who doesn’t. I know moving on can be hard when you’re invested in someone, but trust me, it’s worth it.
  8. Anyone who plays games isn’t worth your time. I know you got excited about the person. You may have even really started to fall for them. Still, when they start messing with your head, that’s when you know it isn’t right. Anyone who plays games doesn’t deserve you. They should be with someone else who will play games right back, not with you someone who knows what they want. You deserve much more.
  9. I promise that people who don’t play games are out there. As much as it doesn’t seem like it, there ARE good people in the world who won’t play games. There are people who will treat you just as you deserve to be treated. They’re straightforward and you can believe what they say. There are even plenty of these people to go around. I promise someone out there is waiting for you and they’re going to blow your mind.
  10. Of course, there are some exaggerated cases. I say there is no such thing as seeming too eager, but of course, there are some really exaggerated cases like stalking. At that point, I wouldn’t call it eager, I’d call it problematic. If someone has rejected you, do not continue to confess your adoration for them. It’s done—walk away.
Ginelle has been writing professionally for more than six years and has a bachelor’s degree in digital marketing & design. Her writing has appeared on Birdie, Thought Catalog, Tiny Buddha and more. You can follow her on Instagram @ginelletesta, via her Facebook page, or through her website at