Not All Guys Are Relationship Material, So Pay Attention To The Warning Signs

Not All Guys Are Relationship Material, So Pay Attention To The Warning Signs ©iStock/PeopleImages

If you’re looking for a relationship, you’re going to need to approach guys who are relationship material. In this sense, a guy who is relationship material is someone who will not have a fatal flaw that would annihilate any chance of you being happy in the relationship. For your particular situation, deal breakers can include sexual chemistry, a bad taste in music, or even just a very bad first date location. Believe it or not, there are some key indicators that a guy is not relationship material for anyone. Here are ten signs that the guy you’re seeing will almost always be trouble ahead.

  1. He has serious anger issues – even if they aren’t directed at you. Be very, very wary of this red flag. If he regularly lashes out in anger at other people, there’s no saying that he won’t lash out at you, too, and you definitely don’t need that in your life.
  2. He seems to enjoy making subtle digs at you. This is a sign of biting insecurity and likely signals far worse things on the horizon. Much like with clue #1, those subtle digs are very likely to escalate. You don’t want to be in a relationship with a guy who seems to enjoy hurting you, nor should anyone even consider dating someone that sadistic.
  3. He’s said that he doesn’t want a relationship. As I’ve learned, you can’t force a relationship to happen with a guy who just doesn’t see the value in it. The guy who doesn’t want marriage or a relationship is a de facto example of poor relationship material, simply because there’s no way to keep him for the long run.
  4. The guy in question is constantly broke, and has no ambition whatsoever. Unless your ideal relationship includes basically having an kidult as a husband, you will most likely want someone who isn’t a total deadbeat. Besides, a man who actually has ambition and works towards his goals is sexy.
  5. He is always busy. You can’t have a relationship with a guy who isn’t there!
  6. He doesn’t value your time together, or your time at all. You can earn more money. You can buy a new couch. You can sign for another mortgage. What you can’t get back is time. Don’t waste yours on a guy who doesn’t appreciate it for the priceless thing it is.
  7. He has a need to always be right. For the guy with this trait, even opinions are treated as fact. Woe to be the person who goes on a date with him and has the nerve to disagree with him. Unless you want every single disagreement to turn into a heated argument, or unless you’re willing to just agree with whatever he says, this guy is not relationship material by any means.
  8. He doesn’t respect your feelings, opinions, or needs. If he can’t respect your needs or your emotions, then he doesn’t really respect you. In a relationship with a guy like this, you’ll never be his #1. In fact, being in a relationship with a guy who doesn’t respect your needs generally means that you’ll be miserable and neglected. Next!
  9. It’s a case of “all hat, no cattle.” This is an old Texan saying that means that he’s always talking up a storm, but doesn’t show any indication that it’s anything more than hot air. In relationships, talk is cheap. Anyone can promise anything to you; it doesn’t mean that they’ll deliver.
  10. You can’t help but notice that he has no backbone. In order to get his way, he doesn’t ask – he whines until it’s given to him. If someone insults him or oversteps their boundaries, he won’t confront them. If the guy can’t stand up for himself, what makes you think he’ll stand up for you?
  11. Of course, the biggest sign that he isn’t relationship material for you is if you’re just not into him, and though crappy romantic comedies may suggest otherwise, there’s not much you can do for a lack of attraction. If a guy isn’t relationship material, don’t force it. You deserve better.
Ossiana Tepfenhart is a New Jersey based writer and editor with bylines in Mashed, Newsbreak, Good Men Project, YourTango, and many more. She’s also the author of a safe travel guide for LGBTQIA+ people available on Amazon.

She regularly writes on her popular Medium page and posts on TikTok and Instagram @ossianamakescontent.