I’m Not Always Easy To Love, But This Is Why You’ll Never Regret Being With Me

Partners have told me I’m a lot to handle, I have a strong personality, and I’m super sensitive. Some people might be offended by these observations, but I already know they’re true. I also know that the very personality quirks that make me hard to handle also make me totally worth it.

  1. When I love someone, I love them wholeheartedly. If someone is lucky enough to be the apple of my eye, I shower them in adoration. They’ll be awakened with kisses, giggles, and compliments. Passion is never lacking in my romantic relationships. I bring my whole heart to each and every person that I choose to make my lover. This level of intensity can definitely be too much for some people but I wouldn’t change it for the world.
  2. I’ve been through hell and back — and I’m better for it. I didn’t become this intense gal overnight. Years of a turbulent childhood, a plethora of messy relationships, and different life experiences have shaped me into the person who stands before you. Don’t mistake my colorful past for something to be afraid of, though. I’ve learned valuable lessons from the heartache and the pain and it’s actually made me a more resilient, intelligent, and compassionate lover.
  3. I tend to have stubborn streaks. The sheer volume of feelings I have coursing through my body at any given moment inevitably lead to bouts of stubbornness. I’ve been known to regress to child-like stomping, crossing my arms, and storming out dramatically. I know these patterns aren’t ideal, but they don’t last. Usually, within an hour (or sometimes the next day), I’ll admit that I was being bratty and I’ll have a conversation about what happened.
  4. I’m constantly aiming to be a better person. I choose to channel the amount of energy that flows through me on a daily basis into molding myself into a better person. The same feelings from the hissy fit you may see me throwing one day will turn into a sincere apology and constructive conversation the next. I’m always willing to be honest about my imperfections and do better next time. What more can you ask from someone?
  5. I require consistent and clear communication. We all have brains that never shut off, but mine seems to regularly have had multiple cups of cappuccino. Perhaps it’s a result of my fears around abandonment, but I need my partner to talk with me about matters large and small on a super regular basis. The communication also needs to be crystal clear; no guessing games, otherwise I’ll be thinking up all kinds of scenarios in my head that aren’t real.
  6. I easily weed out people who aren’t a match. It’s not uncommon for me to bring my whole self to the table in dating and then have someone run the other direction. Because I’m so passionate and intense, you can get an easy read on who I am right from the start. If someone doesn’t like it, they either leave or I can tell it isn’t going to work out, so I leave.
  7. I trust my intuition when making decisions. I’ve had to learn to slow down and hone my intuition. Otherwise, the well of feelings I had in me would carry me all over the place. I’ve had a ton of practice in doing this, so I really trust my gut when it tells me something is off. Whether or not you understand my choices is irrelevant because I trust myself and that’s what matters to me.
  8. I don’t give a damn what other people think of me. Having a strong personality has meant that there are plenty of people who dislike me or have equally strong opinions about me. I’m unapologetic in my ways and you can count on me to show up as I am. I embrace my imperfections by not apologizing for excess belly fat and going weeks without wearing makeup. I’m comfortable in my own skin and no one can take that away from me. This means that when I have a partner, I don’t depend on them for validation. We can love each other freely without trying to own one another.
  9. I know my worth and I won’t settle for less. My friends are astonished at my ability to kick a lover to the curb in an instant when I find that they’re not treating me how I deserve to be treated. I don’t make excuses for players, and in the rare case one slips by my radar, they don’t last long. I’ve spent my entire life learning how to love and treat myself right; I don’t have that kind of time to teach someone else.
  10. There’s no shortage of people who love me. Sure, I love wholeheartedly in romantic relationships. But I also love with this level of intensity in friendships, family relationships, with coworkers, and pets. Love comes seeping out of my pores, so I have a ton of people who love me right back. These aren’t fair-weathered friends, either. These are the kind of people who are the first to bring me flowers when I’m sick, ice cream when I’m heartbroken, and a loving kick in the butt when I’m depressed. My high energy levels are matched with a circle of powerful friends.
Ginelle has been writing professionally for more than six years and has a bachelor’s degree in digital marketing & design. Her writing has appeared on Birdie, Thought Catalog, Tiny Buddha and more. You can follow her on Instagram @ginelletesta, via her Facebook page, or through her website at ginelletesta.com.