If We’re Not Going To Get Back Together, I Wish He’d Stop Leading Me On

We broke up but we never truly parted ways. I want him back but he’s still unsure, so he keeps me in limbo, never letting me move on but also never letting us get too far across the line. I’ve had enough. If we’re not getting back together, I wish he’d stop leading me on.

  1. It’s time for him to make a choice. Maybe commitment isn’t his strong suit, but he can’t put me off anymore. He needs to make a decision—are we getting back together or am I moving on? Those are the only options here. He doesn’t get to keep me on the hook. If we’re not going to be together again then he needs to stop giving me hope because this twisted game is just plain cruel.
  2. I don’t want to keep loving a man who’s never going to love me back. I don’t want to stay in the torture of unrequited love forever. I love him but I also want a man who’s going to reciprocate my feelings. If he doesn’t love me anymore and could never have feelings for me again then I need him out of my life. I don’t want to keep chasing a man who doesn’t see me in his future.
  3. He either wants to be with me or he doesn’t. I would say that at some point he has to make up his mind, but I don’t think love should really be a choice. He either loves me and wants to be with me or I’m simply not the girl for him. I can’t be maybe “The One” so does he love me or not? Does he want to be with me or not? If not, it’s time for him to stop making me think we still have a chance.
  4. I don’t want to waste any more time if we’re not going to end up together. I’m not getting any younger. If this isn’t going to work out then I deserve to get back in the dating game. If he’s not the guy I’m meant to be with that means he’s still out there waiting for me. I don’t want to waste any more time on him. I deserve a happily ever after, and unless he’s going to turn into Prince Charming, it’s about time he steps out of the way.
  5. I believe in “The One.” So am I the one for him or what? That’s not something he should have to think about—he should just know. Being without him is breaking my heart, but if we’re not getting back together then he should let me go so I can begin to heal and move on.
  6. If being together doesn’t feel right to him then it’s wrong. Love might not be easy, but it also shouldn’t be this damn hard. If his gut is telling him something just isn’t right here then he should listen to it. He shouldn’t lead me on when being with me would feel wrong. I don’t want to be with someone who has doubts. Is that really so hard to understand?
  7. He doesn’t need time to live the single life. Not if he’s met the right person. He might think that guys all need to experience screwing around because it’s simply in their nature to spread their seed, but I say grow up. If I was right for him then he wouldn’t need to experience other women. If I’m not enough, I wish he’d just let me go.
  8. Being not quite single yet not together is tearing me apart. I’m usually a happy girl, but this in-between BS is making me miserable. He’s in my life but not in the way I want him to be. It’s torture to see him and talk to him but not be able to be with him. I either want to be fully broken up and put an end to us forever or get back together, but I can’t live in this gray space anymore.
  9. He can’t have me and screw around too. He doesn’t get to have me on a leash while he gets to go out and do god knows what with god knows who. If he doesn’t want to be with me, that’s fine, but then he needs to let me live my own life. He can’t check up on me anymore. He can’t make me think that we might still have a future. He doesn’t get to lead me on while he’s seeing other women too. He can’t have both the single life and a relationship.
  10. I love him but I deserve better. I deserve a man who would never let me go in the first place. All I can think is that if he was willing to give me up once, he’d be willing to do it again, and I don’t want to be stuck in some kind of on-again/off-again relationship ring of torture. I deserve to be with someone who is 100 percent committed to me, and I don’t think he’ll ever be able to give me a love like that.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has been blogging for over four years and writing her whole life. Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. She enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.