Not Having A Boyfriend Isn’t A Big Deal — Seriously, Chill Out

Not Having A Boyfriend Isn’t A Big Deal — Seriously, Chill Out ©iStock/South_agency

These days, being single AF is more common than ever, and finding someone who’s a good match for you and wants the same things that you do from love feels damn near impossible. It sucks, but it isn’t something to be ashamed about or get depressed about… even though that’s easier said than done sometimes. Being single really isn’t the end of the world — here’s why:

  1. You have the time to figure yourself out. You don’t need a relationship to be happy, and yet, it seems like something activates in the single brain that puts finding love as a main priority on the radar. It’s cool that you’re open to the idea of finding love, but it shouldn’t be your main mission, especially if you’re just recently out of a relationship. Chill and take some time to enjoy you.
  2. You have time to get your act together. Being in a real, mature relationship can be hectic AF when you’re juggling two lives and two schedules, so while you have the time now, tick some items off your to-do list in life. Go and take that course you’ve been putting off. Chase that promotion. Fix your credit score. Get fit AF at the gym. You have the luxury of time on your side to correct all those little things you’ve been putting off — don’t take it for granted.
  3. You learn new things about who you truly are. Self-discovery is truly liberating, and if you don’t stop and smell the single life roses, you might miss out on who you truly are completely. Sure, having a boyfriend is great, but if you don’t take the time to know and love yourself deeply, you’ll only end up covering it up in the shell of a relationship. Do yourself a favor and relish the alone time you have for soul-searching while you have it.
  4. You figure out what’s really important in a partner. Dating is undeniably one of the most thrilling, frustrating, and exciting parts about being single. It’s not that you shouldn’t date at all, but don’t aim to make every guy you come across your boyfriend. The best part about being single and enjoying the dating scene is getting to know different personalities and guys who come from different walks of life. Sure, you’ll have some failures, jerks, and disappointments along the way, but you’ll truly zone in on what you want in your forever guy.
  5. You realize there’s more to life than love. Sooner or later, you’ll start to notice things happening in or around your life that have nothing to do with love that’ll make you realize being single isn’t that bad at all. You’ll see seemingly happy couples fall apart, you’ll suffer loss, and you’ll experience grief. Yes, you’ll go through the tough stuff alone, but you’ll also see that being single is simply one of life’s many stages.
  6. You gain the strength to de-clutter your heart. There’s no better time to heal your heart from old wounds and the scars from your old relationships than when you truly embrace your single life. It’s a chance to reflect on your own behavior, reflect on the way you love and choose partners, and improve on who you want to become not only in love, but who you want to be overall.
  7. You have the freedom to explore anything and anywhere you want. Let’s face it: love is amazing, but when you’re coupled up, life just doesn’t work the same way. When you share a life with someone else, you can’t just come and go as you please, and things need to be discussed and carefully planned between two different lives. When you’re single, you don’t need to worry about any of that. Take that trip you’ve been dreaming of. Plan that three-day hike that you never imagined you would be able to do on your own. Do things to empower yourself instead of wallowing in misery.
  8. You become truly comfortable in your own company. If you’re used to having a guy constantly in the picture, it’s time to switch things up. There’s a certain shift that happens inside you when you learn how to be completely and blissfully okay braving life all on your own, and you’ll never get there if you’re either constantly with any guy you can find or constantly bitter about the fact that you’re alone. Being alone is actually pretty awesome if you learn to make the most of it and enjoy the luxury of it.
  9. You’re in complete and total control of yourself. Yes, you’re single and without romantic love, but so what? Rolling solo and enjoying it is one of those real life experiences that you’ll look back and thank yourself for. For once in your life, you answer to no one, you don’t need to consider anyone else before you make plans for your own life. You have the freedom to enjoy anything and everything at your own leisure. It might suck at times, but it’s certainly not the end of the world.