I’m Not Interested In Casual Sex But I’d Totally Be Down For Casual Cuddling

Sex buddies are great and all, but can you imagine having a cuddle buddy? Think about this—whenever you’re feeling cold or need someone to rub your back or hold you, you could just call up your CB to get some full-on snuggly cuddles. Ugh, that sounds like absolute heaven to me.

  1. Sometimes I’m just cold. I mean, I COULD just fill up my hot water bottle, wrap it in a blanket and hug it while I drift off to sleep, but there’s nothing like the body heat of a real human to really warm you up. Being single in the winter sucks, but if I had a cuddle buddy on those especially chilly nights, things wouldn’t seem so bad.
  2. Loneliness is a thing, ya know. It’s been scientifically proven that humans can only go so long without some sort of physical touch. I even feel it in myself. It only took a few days after my breakup until I started craving that physical contact again. If I had a cuddle buddy, I could get those cravings fed whenever I wanted because let’s be honest—casual sex can only take me so far.
  3. It would be nice to have intimacy without the pressure of putting out. I would love to just cuddle for the sake of it, not necessarily to turn each other on but to just give each other comfort. Doesn’t that sound nice? Sometimes I just want to be touched but don’t necessarily want to go all the way and have sex, which would be the perfect job for a cuddle buddy.
  4. I know I’m not alone when I say my favorite part of sex is the cuddling that comes afterward. Don’t get me wrong, sex feels great (usually). To be honest, though, the afterglow is what really does it for me. It’s a lot more emotionally fulfilling. I mean, the action of sex feels good physically, but it’s the cuddling afterward that actually makes me feel content and comforted.
  5. Cuddling is actually really good for your health. Apparently cuddling on a regular basis reduces stress and lowers blood pressure. It also could be compared to activities such as meditation and yoga, which are known to be stress reducers. I seriously feel SO zen after a cuddle sesh. Maybe I should cancel my yoga membership and just find a cuddle buddy instead…
  6. I feel so safe when I’m in someone else’s arms. I think what I’m really craving when I’m wanting to cuddle is that feeling of safety. It’s that feeling of being able to let go and breathe a sigh of relief and just forgetting all of my troubles. There’s seriously no other feeling like it in the world. Even if I don’t really know the person very well, it still feels good to my body to be protected.
  7. I don’t regret cuddling the same way I can regret sex. Sometimes when I invite my FWB over, I regret it. Either it gets awkward for whatever reason or I say yes to something I don’t really want to do. I can’t always depend on casual sex to make me feel good about myself whether it’s for personal, social or even political reasons. Sex is a complicated thing! Cuddling though is so PG that I don’t think I could ever regret it. It’s just so nice and I can’t ever picture myself feeling bad about it.
  8. It takes a lot less preparation. I don’t need to shave down there, clean myself, or make sure I’m not on my period—all I need is me and my body! When the mood strikes for cuddling, it’s go time. No prep needed.
  9. It’s all the intimacy with none of the risk. This is probably the most important point of them all. The greatest thing about cuddling is that I can’t get pregnant or an STD from it. It’s pretty much zero risk. Unlike sex, I won’t be constantly worrying in the back of my mind if this is going to be the condom that breaks and ruins my life. Just another reason to get on the cuddling train.
  10. There’s a healing aspect to it. I can’t really explain it, but I feel almost feel refreshed after a good cuddle session. Whatever was bothering me before just isn’t anymore and my whole body just feels so relaxed and almost uplifted. Maybe it’s some sort of energy healing at work or maybe I’m just getting into a better mood. Whatever it is, it works.
  11. I don’t get enough cuddling from my FWBs. I don’t know about you, but my FWBs don’t really like to cuddle. The whole point of casual sex is to make sure it’s an NSA kinda situation, so any sort of cuddling could cause one of the parties to get too attached. I find I’m left at the end of our encounter still wanting some physical contact but they often leave like 10-15 minutes after the deed. Come on! I need my cuddle quota filled!
Jennifer is a playwright, dancer, and theatre nerd living in the big city of Toronto, Canada. She studied Creative Writing at Concordia University and works as a lifestyle writer who focuses on Health, B2B, Tech, Psychology, Science, Food Trends and Millennial Life. She's also a coreographer, playwright, and lyricist, with choreography credits for McMaster University’s “Spring Awakening,” “Roxanne” for the Guelph Contemporary Dance Festival, and “The Beaver Den” for The LOT, among others.

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