If He’s Serious About You, He’ll Do These Things Without Thinking Twice

There’s no such thing as a guy giving you mixed signals, only a guy who’s showing you he’s not that into you. If he’s interested in you, he’ll be clear about his feelings, and if he’s serious about that interest and wants a real relationship, you can be sure he’ll do these things:

  1. He’ll prevent you from playing guessing games. Dating games are stupid. If a guy is into you, he’ll refrain from making you guess what he’s thinking about you. He’ll be open about the fact that you’re on his mind and that he really likes you because he’s got nothing to hide.
  2. He’ll call when he says he will. This might sound cliche, but just think: would you tell a guy you’re into that you’ll call him but then not do it? No, because you want him to see you in a favorable light. It’s the little things that show you what kind of guy you’re dealing with. If he says he’ll call you after a date but doesn’t, only to send you a polite text days later, don’t let him off the hook. He needs to mean what he says if you’re going to give him your time.
  3. He’ll be clear about when he wants to see you. He doesn’t have to book you for a date three weeks ahead of time (creepy, much?), but he should be clear about when he would like to see you so you can synchronize your busy schedules. It shows that you mean so much to him you’re already racing to the top of his list of priorities.
  4. He’ll tell you you’re perfect as you are. Once you start getting to know the guy, flaws are going to come out to play. But a guy who’s really serious about you will not get swayed by them or make you feel like the romance is dying because you’re seeing the real, flawed parts of each other. He’ll celebrate your flaws as beautiful because they take you from honeymoon phase to real relationship.
  5. He’ll confess he’s single AF. If it’s date three and you have to ask him if he’s single, something’s shady. He should have made it clear from day one that he’s completely unattached and open to something with you.
  6. He’ll initiate the exclusivity talk. He shouldn’t be saying he wants to be exclusive from the first date (again, creepy much?), but he should be clear that he wants to date you and only you after a few dates. If you know his pets’ names, have met his best friend and he’s seen you without makeup, but he still hasn’t said he wants to be exclusive, what’s he up to?
  7. He’ll change his Facebook relationship status. It might seem stupid to think that a Facebook relationship status can affect your RL relationship, but it does. A guy who is into you and wants to be exclusive will show his 250 friends and the world that he’s with you on social media. If he doesn’t, you can’t help but wonder what he’s hiding or if he’s trying to keep his options open.
  8. He’ll be open about his spare time. You don’t have to see him every second of his or your spare time, of course, but he won’t hide his spare time from you. He’ll be open and honest about what he’s been up to and where he’s been, without going AWOL from Friday night until Monday morning.
  9. He’ll have a mad urge to talk to you – and not just on dates. When a guy is crazy about you, he’ll show it in wanting to talk to you often about your day, your work, your dreams, and so on. He won’t reserve such talk for dates, though. He’ll be firing up your cell phone with texts and calls, showing real interest in you.
  10. He’ll want you around for the boring stuff. It’s great if he’s inviting you out to dates at your favourite restaurant, but when a guy’s serious about you, he’ll also want you around on the mundane days, like when he’s doing some grocery shopping or walking his dog in the park. He’ll want to show you everything about his life.
  11. He’ll want you all to himself on most dates. Yes, there are going to be times when you meet up with the guy’s friends, and when you go out on group dates, but for the most part a guy who’s really into you will want to have one-on-one dates with you often. This is your time together, when you get to do things you love and spend time shutting out the world. By showing you how important you are to him, you won’t have to doubt that he’s so into you. It will be clear AF so you can chill out and enjoy what happens.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.