Now That I’ve Found You, I Finally Realize What Love Is Supposed To Feel Like

Now That I’ve Found You, I Finally Realize What Love Is Supposed To Feel Like

After being single for most of my adult life, being in a long-term relationship sounded scary AF. Even using the term “boyfriend” had me all nervous and sweaty. I’ll admit, when we first got together, I wasn’t sure it was what I wanted. I was used to be wild and free, and if I value anything in this world, it’s my independence. However, the longer we stayed together, the more I see it’s exactly what I needed in my life.

  1. You support me no matter what. I can come up with some crazy ideas, and I know it can be a lot to handle. I have big dreams, I have small dreams, and the fact that you will always support me in everything I do means more than you know. Before, I’d always looked at relationships as stifling because I’d never been in one that didn’t question my lifestyle choices. Being with you feels like finally breathing fresh air.
  2. You never act possessive. I hate possessiveness and jealousy. I’m an extremely independent person and I value my alone time. I used to be made to feel guilty about wanting to spend a night by myself, but now I know that I was just with the wrong person. You don’t take it personally if I say I need to do my own thing for a little bit, and I love that about you.
  3. You let me be me. I’m a bit kooky and intense when it comes to my beliefs. I meditate every morning; I love my crystals, I believe in the energy surrounding you and a universe that gives you what you ask for. I like to spend my free time contemplating my goals and dreams. I’m a RIDICULOUSLY picky eater, and I have a hard time staying away from sticky topics (politics, animal welfare, etc.), even when it gets me in trouble. You’ve never made me feel like a burden for being true to myself.
  4. You calm me down when I need it. I can get pretty wound up. As much as I wish it weren’t true, I’m very quick to anger (I’m working on that). I’ll call you in the middle of a heated moment and you know exactly what to say to make me laugh, lighten the mood, and show me what’s really important.
  5. We connect on a soulmate level. I’ve never felt a connection the way I do with you. It feels like you were made for me. You were exactly what I was missing in my life and you came when I needed it the most. Sometimes I’m in awe of how much we fit together.
  6. You give me at least one gut-busting laugh per day. Laughter is the best medicine, right? I love the fact that I’m dating my best friend, someone who makes me laugh till I cry at least once a day. In the end, everything else could disappear and I like to know that I’m with someone who can make me laugh, even through the hard times.
  7. You push me even when I don’t want it. Sometimes I’m perfectly comfortable staying in my little cocoon I’ve built for myself. Sometimes I just don’t want to be pushed outside my comfort zone. I’m glad that you call BS on my fears and push me anyway. I wouldn’t be where I am today without you teaching me how to reach for what I want.
  8. You give me room to grow. I used to believe that when you got in a relationship, you stopped growing. I thought that you got too comfortable with each other and you stopped caring about making yourself better. With you, I can grow into the person I want to be and I don’t have to worry about being limited by my relationship. You let me expand myself, and I never have to be worried about judgment.
  9. You’re a better person than I am. It’s true. I know the phrase, “They’re my better half” is cliche and overdone, but you are and I wouldn’t change it. I like it this way because it forces me to rise to your level and be a better person. Your kindness is constantly inspiring me, and your selflessness what it means to live a meaningful life.
  10. You show me what unconditional love looks like every day. If you’re lucky (and I was), you’ll experience unconditional love from your family. But until now, I hadn’t felt such a limitless love from someone who wasn’t my blood. I’m never afraid of showing you all the parts of me because I know you love me no matter what. By showing me that kind of love, you’ve helped me become a better person, a better friend, and a better daughter.
Piper is a NYC-based writer who loves dogs, iced coffee, and calling people out on their BS.