Old Fashioned Dating Customs We Shouldn’t Actually Bring Back

The “good old days” weren’t actually any better than today. In some ways, they were a whole lot worse. Think about it: Men had all the power, women were treated as objects, and relationships were anything but equal. That’s why we should stop glorifying the past and pushing everyone to bring back old fashioned dating habits. Some of them are meant to stay in the past.

  1. The man should pay for everything. If you make more money than your man, treat him to a meal. If you’re all about equality, then split the bill whenever you have a night out on the town. There’s no reason for a guy to provide for you when you’re perfectly capable of taking care of yourself.
  2. Never have sex on the first date. If you want to have sex five minutes after you meet a man, go for it. As long as you use protection, then there’s nothing wrong with moving faster than most people do. After all, it’s your life, so you might as well do whatever makes you happy.
  3. Chaperones should accompany you. During the Victorian Era, chaperons accompanied women on all of their dates. Of course, you probably shouldn’t even double date if it’s your first time out with a man. If someone else is around, it’ll be harder for you two to be intimate.
  4. Wait three days to call a woman. Why should girls be expected to sit by the phone, twiddling their thumbs for three days straight? If a man likes a woman, then he should call her as soon as the urge strikes. He can even text her minutes after the date to ask if she got home safety and if she had a good time. There’s no need to wait.
  5. Play hard to get. If your crush asks you out, why would you tell him you’re busy when you’re actually free? Be thankful for the opportunity to date him and accept his invitation to dinner. There’s no reason to play mind games when you could start your fairy tale right away.
  6. The man should make the first move. Women have just as much power as men do. That’s why you should ask out the next hot guy you see. It isn’t his job to initiate a conversation and pick a place to eat. You can handle all of that yourself. He’ll be happy for the change of pace.
  7. Dress up on the first date. You shouldn’t have to buy an expensive dress and jewels to wear on your dates. If you end up with the man, he’ll see you in sweatpants and hoodies eventually, so why pretend to be something you’re not? If you hate to play dress up, then don’t do it.
  8. He should pick you up at your house. If you’re going out with someone you met over the Internet, then it’s actually better to meet each other at the restaurant. That way, it’ll be easier for you to escape if he turns out to be crazy.
  9. Go to dinner and a movie. The worst thing you can do on a first date is watch a film. It won’t give you two the chance to talk, so you won’t get to know each other. A date like that is too impersonal, which is why you should stick to activities that actually involve socializing.
  10. Pretend to be something you’re not. You’re supposed to be on your best behavior during a date. However, you shouldn’t try too hard to act nicer, funnier, and smarter than you actually are. Don’t you want your date to like you for you?
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.