Lots of people complain about being single AF, but I actually kind of love it. I’ve thoroughly enjoyed my years as a single lady and have spent them doing some amazing things I probably wouldn’t have if I’d been coupled up. I look forward to meeting a great guy someday, but this is why I’m still in no rush to change my relationship status:
- I’ve learned a ton about myself. My time flying solo has shown me a lot about how I act when I don’t have a significant other with me… and honestly, I really like what I’ve seen so far. I’ve learned that I’m way stronger than I thought, and I’ve discovered a lot of new passions that I never would’ve found if I’d had a boyfriend this whole time.
- I do great on my own. There are some people — and I was once one of them — who have a hard time living life without a guy by their side. But I think I do a pretty good job navigating the world without anyone literally or metaphorically holding my hand. I know how to get stuff done, and I don’t need a guy to help me financially, sexually, or emotionally.
- There’s no one I’m really interested in. I’m never really focused on getting into a relationship unless I have a specific person in mind. Right now, though, there’s really no one that I have a crush on. Maybe I’d feel differently if I was really wanting to get with someone special, but since there’s no one who’s caught my eye recently, I’m happy to continue my life single and satisfied.
- I enjoy being alone. I usually love being in a relationship when I actually have a boyfriend, but even then, I sometimes long for the days when I could just go home and read a book in my pajamas without worrying about feeling obligated to hang out with another person. Maybe I just haven’t found the right guy yet, but for now, I’m soaking up all that solo time I can get.
- I’m too independent for my own good. Am I the only one who feels tied down even when I’m dating someone I really like? I definitely need my space, and I often feel smothered when I’m in even the most loving of relationships. This is probably something I’ll need to get over eventually, but until then, I’m happy being Miss Independent.
- Dating is a nightmare. With all the horror stories about dating floating around, I’m admittedly a bit terrified to dive head-first into the dating pool. I have way too much going on to waste time on guys who may or may not work out. If I eventually do get into another relationship, it’s going to be with someone I’m already acquainted with. Until then, I don’t feel like I’m missing out by keeping Tinder off my phone.
- I’m too busy for a relationship. My life is always jam-packed with things to do, and I simply don’t see where a boyfriend would even fit into that massive puzzle. A worthy guy deserves more than a woman who’s too focused on her career and hobbies to remember to text him back, and unfortunately, that’s really all I can offer to a potential partner right now. I have enough on my plate, and a relationship would be way too much for me to handle right now.
- I’m loving being selfish. I’m definitely a giver in relationships, but all this time being single has shown me just how awesome it is to focus on myself and only myself. I don’t have to ask anyone if it’s cool to order pizza for the third time in one week, and if I want to make travel plans, I don’t have to take another person into consideration. I’ll go back to being my selfless self once I actually have a boyfriend again, but I’m taking this time to spoil myself a bit.
- I can make myself happy. My life doesn’t feel like it’s lacking anything, and I don’t feel like a romantic partner would add anything to it. I have a great family, the best friends anyone could ask for, and a life that I’m grateful to be living. If I one day find that there’s a hole in my life that only a boyfriend could fill, I might start looking again. But I’m perfectly delighted with the way things are right now.
- I’m in a stage of transition. It’s never a good idea to start dating someone when your life is in a state of flux, but that’s exactly where I am right now. I don’t know what I’ll be doing or where I’ll be going next, and the last thing I want is to drag some poor guy into all that chaos. I’ve been single for long enough now that waiting a bit longer until my life settles down definitely isn’t going to kill me.