Online Dating Is Great, But Nothing Beats Getting Asked Out In Person

Getting asked out on Tinder or any other online dating platform loses its thrill after it’s happened 100 times. Any guy can type out a message and click send. That doesn’t require any kind of effort or courage, and even though it seems like it’s just for you, it’s likely not. Guys complain all the time how hard it is to get a girl to follow through on an online date, but do you wanna know what makes a girl say yes? Asking us out in person.

  1. It’s super impressive. You can’t help but be at least a little bit impressed when a guy comes up to you and just straight up asks you out on a date. Whether he’s super nervous or is super suave, it doesn’t really matter — the fact that he even had the nerve to do it is pretty cool all on its own.
  2. It makes you feel like you’re in a movie. You know those adorable meet-cute moments in rom-coms? The first one that comes to mind is when Matthew McConaughey saves Jennifer Lopez from getting hit by a car in The Wedding Planner and it’s like love at first sight. When you get asked out in person, it feels… magical for some reason, like you’re in a movie. It’s an event all on its own and if the two of you end up falling in love, you’ll look back on that moment and realize how special it was.
  3. You know whether or not you like him from the get-go. The thing about getting asked out in person is that you get a real gauge of who this guy is and whether or not you would really want to date him. You can tell A LOT from a first impression, but when you get asked out online, you’re only going by what he’s messaging you. That could have been copied and pasted from some random website, for all you know.
  4. You get a feel of his energy. Something you can’t get from an online message that you CAN get in person is energy. You can tell so much based on the general vibe you get from a person. It’s usually straight up good or bad and there’s no way you would be able to feel that from an online message. That’s all gray area.
  5. It shows that he’s brave. How awesome is it that a guy just walks right up to you and asks you out even though he was scared out of his mind? It’s scary to face the possibility of rejection — I did it once and don’t think I could ever do it again. Even if you don’t think he’s your type, you know that he has the heart of a hero, and that’s really a point in his favor.
  6. It makes the date feel less awkward. Look, texting is cheap. He can send you the most well-thought out and eloquent messages that make your panties drop upon reading, but it doesn’t mean he’s going to pull out the same stops once you meet up in person. There’s a weird kinda expectation in the air once you’re on the date that the banter should be just as good as it was online. Unfortunately, neither of you have time to think of what you’re going to say in advance, so if he isn’t naturally witty and charming, this might be the end of things before they really start.
  7. The hard part is already over. Admitting your feelings to someone is the hardest part and once you say yes to him, it’s smooth sailing (well more or less) from there. The thing about getting asked out online is that even though you said yes to the date…you didn’t say yes to HIM fully because you still haven’t even met in person. It makes the dating process a lot longer and arduous than it has to be.
  8. You’re more likely to give him a chance. You don’t really have to worry about missing out on true love because if a guy asks you out in person, you’re probably going to give it a chance, at the very least. Maybe you’ll text him later and change your mind, but his tenacity impressed you and he earned your approval by putting himself up for potential rejection.
  9. It feels good to have someone risk their dignity for you. Don’t you feel kind of amazing when a guy is willing to risk his pride just for the chance of taking you out? It’s so safe to sit at home and ask girls out through a computer — hell, even a robot could do that. Getting rejected is a piece of cake when it’s in writing, but when it’s in person, it’s a dangerous business and only the most badass of men can handle it.
  10. You don’t waste time dating guys you don’t like. Imagine all the time you’ll save by not going out on dates with subpar guys. Getting asked out lets you decide right then and there whether you like this person, and you’re usually right when you have the chance to feel them out. When you agree to go on a date with dudes who hit you up over Tinder or OkCupid, there’s a very good chance that you won’t like each other and then you’ll waste a perfectly good night. No thanks.
Jennifer is a playwright, dancer, and theatre nerd living in the big city of Toronto, Canada. She studied Creative Writing at Concordia University and works as a lifestyle writer who focuses on Health, B2B, Tech, Psychology, Science, Food Trends and Millennial Life. She's also a coreographer, playwright, and lyricist, with choreography credits for McMaster University’s “Spring Awakening,” “Roxanne” for the Guelph Contemporary Dance Festival, and “The Beaver Den” for The LOT, among others.

You can see more of her work on her Contently page and follow her on Instagram @jenniferenchin.