Some guys just don’t know how to treat a great woman right in a relationship. They’re just jerks who blame all their shortcomings on their partners when they really should be pointing the finger at themselves. It’s shocking at how many men think it’s perfectly OK to be jerks when things don’t go their way. This is my open letter to all the men who have treated the great girls they had like crap.
- You had the golden opportunity. Coming across an amazing girl who’s willing to accept your flaws and try and better you as a man is a rare and golden opportunity for the kind of relationship you probably needed in your life. But instead of harnessing that opportunity, you crap all over it with your outbursts, ignorance to her feelings, and illogical reasoning as to why she wasn’t living up to your impeccable standards (which you think you deserve, even though you paid few thoughtful kindnesses to her in return). Relationships are a two way street, and they’re about grown up communication and healthy compromises.
- You need to examine yourself. Whether you routinely shamed her and made her feel lower than her clear platinum worth, raised your voice – or even worse, a hand (in which case, screw you) — or punched holes through your walls during an argument, you need to check yourself, because you need help. Do you ever wonder how these amazing women keep slipping through your hands? Is your entire relationship history one big complaint list of how “that bitch was crazy”? If so, you’re the real problem in the equation.
- You made her stronger. You tried to break her with your selfish ways, your entitlement, and your outlandishly large ego, but guess what? You didn’t succeed, and you never will. Great girls can be temporarily broken down, but believe me when I say that she’ll rise above your crappy treatments and be stronger and better than she was before you. Broken hearts and spirits can be mended, but is something you’re stuck with for life.
- You didn’t deserve her. You had an amazing woman in your grasp. She was smart, driven, and despite your mistreatment, she loved you… until she couldn’t take it anymore. She was out of your league and is even more so now for having experiencing the terrible relationship with you. The only thing worse than failure is the regret you’ll feel for not trying harder to be a better man to keep her in your life.
- You’ll miss her. As soon as the regret sinks in and you look back at all the great qualities about her that you no longer have around, you’ll miss her more than anyone else, because she was amazing. Not only will she be the one that got away, but you’ll be the idiot and the prime reason why she’ll never give you a second look again.
- Thank you for setting her free. Above anything else, although you treated an amazing woman like crap, I thank you. It’s because of your true colors that she’s no longer wasting her time with you. She’s not shedding tears or living in fear of your outbursts anymore. It’s because of the crappy person you were to her that she gets to be free, for someone else equally as great to catch her and keep her forever.
