An Open Letter To Men Who Play With Our Hearts For The Fun Of It

Love isn’t a game. Our hearts aren’t chess pieces. That’s why there’s no valid reason for a man to play with a woman’s heart. It isn’t his to mess around with, so here’s an open letter to men who play with our feelings for the fun of it:

  1. You’re making us stronger. Even though you might’ve made us cry, you’re actually making us stronger, because you’ve shown us how much heartbreak we can handle. You’ve also shown us what traits we don’t want in a boyfriend in the future, so thanks for that.
  2. You’re not as happy as you think. You might think that you’re happy, just because you can say that you’ve made dozens of women fall in love with you. Of course, you don’t know what true happiness is, because you’ve never stuck around for long enough to experience it.
  3. You aren’t actually a Casanova. Don’t get cocky, just because you’ve captured our heart. It’s easy to make a woman fall for you, but it’s hard to keep her satisfied for years, and you’re clearly not capable of the latter.
  4. Karma is going to get you. The universe might not punish you for your relationship sins, but eventually a woman will. Don’t be surprise if your car ends up keyed or your tires get slashed.
  5. Your insecurities aren’t an excuse to be mean. Maybe you play with our hearts, because you’ve been hurt in the past and don’t want to love again, or maybe it’s because you don’t think you’d make a good boyfriend. Either way, that doesn’t give you an excuse to hurt us.
  6. You need to find a new way to feel needed. Tricking us into falling in love with you shouldn’t be the only way to boost your confidence. If it is, then you seriously need to find new ways to learn to love yourself.
  7. There are other ways to get attention. You don’t have to hurt us in order for us to notice you. You could always skip over the part where you break our heart and just become friends with us.
  8. You’re going to scare us away. Maybe playing with our hearts is a weird way to try to win us over. If that’s the case, you made the wrong move, because we’re not going to stick around if you keep trying to mess with our emotions.
  9. Honesty really is the best policy. If all you want is sex, just ask for it instead of pretending you actually care about us. We might just give it to you, and we won’t end up with a broken heart in the process.
  10. We won’t miss you. Okay, maybe we’ll miss you a little, but we definitely won’t miss the way you made us feel. There are plenty of other men out there that would never dream of hurting us the way that you have, and we’d rather spend our time with them.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.