Opinion: If You Can’t Let Your Boyfriend See You Without Makeup, It’s Not Real Love

Before I slept over at my boyfriend’s apartment for the first time, I was curious how other girls felt about that important milestone. After a quick Google search, I realized everyone was worried about one thing: how you can make sure that the new guy in your life doesn’t see you without makeup on. Um, what?! I was pretty surprised that this was such a hot topic issue. After all, if you can’t let your boyfriend see you with a bare face, it’s not real love.

  1. Most guys adore a make-up free face. My boyfriend can’t be the only one who thinks that women look the most beautiful when we’ve just woken up in the morning. When he told me this, it was definitely sweet and romantic but it also got me thinking. I started wondering why so many women obsess over covering up their faces. Guys don’t care about blush and foundation and lipstick—they want to see what you actually look like because they care about you the real you. Sure, they might compliment you if you’re wearing a pretty new shade of red lipstick when you go out for dinner on a Saturday night but other than that, they love the natural look.
  2. You’re hiding a deeper insecurity. Why do you feel like your boyfriend shouldn’t see what your face actually looks like? It just seems like you’re pretty insecure about more than your appearance. Maybe you’re nervous about this new relationship and aren’t sure that it’s going to work out because he’s sending you weird signals, or maybe you need to stay single and work on getting comfortable with yourself before starting something new.
  3. You don’t need to make life so hard. Honestly, starting a new relationship means merging your life with someone else’s and thinking about your schedules, and there just doesn’t seem to be time to worry about whether you’re wearing makeup or not. You’ll only make your life 10 times harder if you’re obsessed with putting on your face all the time.
  4. Always wearing makeup just isn’t practical. If I woke up before my boyfriend every single day and put on an entire face of makeup and then crawled back into bed, that would be pretty strange. He would probably catch on after a while and ask why I was doing that. It’s weird and unnecessary. It’s not realistic to always wear concealer, and that’s OK. If it’s not, you’re dating the wrong person.
  5. You should always feel comfortable with the person you claim to love. What else is there? It doesn’t sound like the greatest relationship if you’re constantly concerned about what you look like. You might want to consider whether you’re really concerned about what your face looks like or if there’s something weird going on that you should really be dealing with.
  6. He’s not always going to look perfect either. Maybe you’re dealing with some pimples this week and would rather your BF not stare at your (gross to you) face. That’s a legit, normal thing to think about. But he doesn’t look flawless all the time, which means he’s definitely not going to expect you to either. You’re both human beings, not oil paintings, so embrace being your natural self.
  7. It looks way too obvious. Of course you want to look good, and that’s even truer in the beginning of your relationship, but you really don’t need to put in the same amount of effort once things are official and going well. Honestly, always caking on makeup looks kind of obvious. The best makeup is when you don’t even look like you’re wearing anything, so why not just go bare-faced most of the time?
  8. Wearing too many products isn’t that great for you. Besides the fact that your boyfriend couldn’t care less about whether you wear makeup all the time, there’s another thing to think about: that wearing a ton of beauty products isn’t doing your skin any favors. You might even cause more breakouts than the ones you’re trying to cover up. Basically, going make-up free when you’re chilling with your boyfriend is good for your skin’s health too.
  9. Makeup should be the last thing on your mind. When I wake up on a Saturday morning next to the guy that I love, I’m not worried about a random pimple on my face or thinking that I need some blush. I’m thinking about how lucky I am to be with someone so amazing and savoring our quality time together. That’s honestly the way that it should be. If you’re more concerned with your mascara than your boyfriend, it’s probably time to think carefully about what you actually want out of your love life. I’ll keep embracing my makeup-free mornings, thank you very much… and I’m pretty sure I’m going to be better off.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.