Opinion: Dating Would Be So Much Easier If I Were A Guy

I’ve always wondered what dating would be like as a guy. Sure, they have to deal with rejection just like we do, but other than that, it seems like they’ve got it pretty good. Here’s why I’m almost 100 percent convinced that dating as a guy would be easier:

  1. They’re not called “crazy cat men” if they’ve been single too long. If a guy is perpetually single, it’s not because he’s undesirable, it’s because he’s on his life purpose. If a girl is perpetually single, she will get called a crazy cat lady within months.
  2. Their attractiveness factor is based on more than just looks. More often than not, we girls are only considered attractive if we’re stick thin with big boobs and perfect hair and makeup. Meanwhile, guys are considered attractive through things like personality, intelligence, and social status. I’m talking first impressions here, so although it’s inevitable that a guy will become more attracted to a woman after he starts talking to us, we’re initially judged on appearance alone. It honestly kinda sucks to know that our worth in the dating game solely relies on our looks.
  3. They get to take the lead. Guys are expected to take the lead when it comes to dating whereas girls are expected to follow. I’m not saying that women are incapable of deciding what restaurant to go to, I’m just saying that guys enjoy taking charge most of the time. Can I just say that it’s totally unfair? We girls would way rather do what we want instead of following someone else around to fulfill society’s expectation of what it means to be a woman in a relationship.
  4. They can have all the casual sex they want with no judgment. Guys get a high five when they have a one-night stand, whereas girls get low-key shamed by other females for “giving it away.” It’s not considered an accomplishment for us when we have casual sex with a guy; in fact, it’s something that we usually regret.
  5. Dating for guys is a light-hearted affair. Guys have a lackadaisical vibe when it comes to dating. Maybe it’s because there’s no real pressure for them to settle down and have a kid before their biological clock runs out. They’re just sailing through life, picking up chicks as they go. Must be nice.
  6. Dating isn’t life-threatening. As a girl, going on a date with someone whom we don’t already know could be a life or death situation. The anxiety starts days in advance for us and we’re honestly just praying that he’s not a serial killer. Of course, guys can be assaulted as well, but history shows us it’s usually the other way around.
  7. They decide the timeline. This, of course, is a huge generalization, but there is some truth to it. Most of the time, the guy is the one who asks out the girl, asks us to move in with him, asks us to marry him, etc. He gets to take a step forward when HE’S ready and while these decisions can be stressful, there’s a lot of comfort in being the one who’s expected to make the first move in the relationship whenever the hell you feel like it.
  8. They’re able to brush off the drama. Relationships come chock-full of drama, but for some reason, it doesn’t seem to phase guys quite as much. Even when they get dumped by their girlfriend of seven years, you’ll find them dating another girl almost immediately. We girls tend to drag the pain on and on. We could cry a million tears and still be sad about it a year later. Most guys will just wallow for a few days and then get back to living life.
  9. Most guys are unashamed to ask for sex. As females, we rarely ever think it’s okay to ask a man for sex — and when we do, we’re paranoid that he thinks we’re cheap or promiscuous. Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to go up to a guy we like and tell him how hot he is and that we kinda wanna jump his bones, like, right now? I mean, sure, there are a lot of girls out there who are confident enough to do that, but most of us consider it to be social suicide.
  10. They don’t “need” a relationship. As women, we sometimes feel like our time is running out — like we’d better find a husband quick before we get too old or before all of our friends get married and abandon us. Dating is in general more stressful for girls because we feel like we need a man to complete us. Guys seem to put their own life goals ahead of “locking down a wife,” which makes dating for them something they do, not like a chore. I’m not saying that they don’t want a relationship because I’m sure they do — otherwise, they wouldn’t be constantly pursuing us. I’m just saying they don’t seem to need one to be happy. 
Jennifer is a playwright, dancer, and theatre nerd living in the big city of Toronto, Canada. She studied Creative Writing at Concordia University and works as a lifestyle writer who focuses on Health, B2B, Tech, Psychology, Science, Food Trends and Millennial Life. She's also a coreographer, playwright, and lyricist, with choreography credits for McMaster University’s “Spring Awakening,” “Roxanne” for the Guelph Contemporary Dance Festival, and “The Beaver Den” for The LOT, among others.

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