Opinion: I Know I’m More Than My Looks, But I Still Like Being Called Hot

I realize that I don’t exist for a man’s pleasure. I don’t fool myself into believing that a guy’s opinion is more important than my own and I won’t accept being used for sex. That being said, I still love it when I’m called hot. In fact, it’s one of the best compliments that I can get. Here’s why:

  1. I like knowing the effort I put into my appearance is appreciated. I don’t get ready in the morning with the hopes of impressing strangers, but I do spend a while putting on my makeup and choosing an outfit to feel good about myself. Whenever I’m called hot, it proves that all the time I spend in the bathroom wasn’t wasted.
  2. It boosts my confidence. No, I shouldn’t need a man to flatter me in order to feel beautiful, but it certainly helps. A compliment about my appearance will always put me in a better mood.
  3. It proves that he’s interested. It can be hard to tell when a man is interested. Of course, if he uses a straightforward approach by calling me hot, I know what’s on his mind, which means I’m not left guessing how he feels.
  4. You can’t compliment personality right away. When I meet someone for the first time, I can’t fault them for complimenting my looks instead of my brain. After all, they haven’t gotten a glimpse of my personality yet, so it’s impossible for them to comment on anything internal.
  5. It reduces my anxieties. I have flaws, just like everyone else does, and they’re all I see when I look in the mirror. However, being called hot makes me question my poor image of myself. It makes me a little less insecure about all of my insecurities.
  6. It’s why I take so many selfies. Why do you think so many of us post selfies to Facebook, Instagram, and any other social media platform that comes out? We all want approval. I’m not afraid to admit that, which is why I enjoy any compliments that I get.
  7. It’s meant as a compliment. Men can come across as pigs by staring at breasts and catcalling on streets, and those moves are far from flattering. However, if they say that I’m hot without making me feel uncomfortable or harassed, then I know it’s genuinely meant to be a compliment, so I take it as one.
  8. I work hard for my body. All of the time spent at the gym is for me, and not for anyone else. However, while I’m killing myself with squats and crunches, it’s nice to think about how much my boyfriend is going to love the results. It makes my hard work really worth it.
  9. The compliment isn’t always sexual. Sometimes, it’s better to be called hot by my straight girlfriends than by men. After all, my friends have amazing taste.
  10. Hotness is an attitude. Most people prefer being called beautiful, because they believe that beauty can be inside and out, but hotness is only external. However, hotness isn’t always about the way that a person looks. Sometimes, it’s about the way that they walk, talk, and carry a conversation.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.