How Being An Optimist Will Totally Change Your Dating Life

Being an optimist doesn’t mean that you think life is all unicorns and rainbows, but it does mean that you look at everything differently than your ‘glass half empty’ peers. When you’re an optimist going through a difficult time, you focus on how adversity makes you stronger and more successful instead of letting life get you down. That positive attitude affects every aspect of your life, including your love life. These are just some of the results:

  1. You’ll be more open to giving different people a shot. Instead of focusing on reasons that it might not work or the reasons you don’t think the two of you will be a match, you realize that you’ll never really know until you try. Love has a way of hitting when you don’t expect it, and it’s impossible to predict. There’s really no reason not to at least go on a date and be open to ideas.
  2. Your self-confidence will be a magnet for romantic attraction. Optimists have a way of finding the good not just in everybody else, but also in themselves. That confidence and positive attitude is contagious; guys will love spending time around a woman who is sure of herself. It’s one of the major things guys look for in a girlfriend, and vice versa.
  3. You’ll stop looking for reasons that someone isn’t good enough. If you’re going to go looking for drawbacks, you’re going to find them (the only perfect person out there is you, obviously). So maybe you should just stop looking. Once you start focusing on the positive instead of the negative, you’ll find so many reasons to overlook someone’s small flaws.
  4. You won’t overanalyze every single fight you have. Disagreements are normal and healthy. Instead of making you doubt your entire relationship, they’ll make you realize just how important it is to develop a system of working through them and coming to a compromise.
  5. You can avoid getting hung up on exes. Optimists trust in fate and in themselves. If it didn’t work out, an optimist won’t blame herself or go crazy trying to wonder what she could have done differently to save the relationship. She knows that there is a reason for everything that happens in life. if it wasn’t meant to be, the right guy will come along eventually.
  6. You can put yourself out there without worrying about making a fool of yourself. Practice makes perfect, right? So be a little aggressive and ask for what you want. If you make the first move and it backfires on you, then once again: it just wasn’t meant to be. At least you tried.
  7. You’re more willing to push past the hard times. Instead of looking at all of the difficulties you face as part of a couple, you can see the big picture and know that the good times are worth fighting for. You won’t let yourself be dragged down into a negative narrative where you trick yourself into believing that you might as well just give up.
  8. People often rise to meet your expectations. Optimists are good at seeing potential in people, meaning they often have high expectations from a partner. And that’s a good thing. People will feel good that you think so highly of them, and will rise to meet those expectations.
Jessica Levy is a freelance blogger and content writer. She’s also a politics junkie, a fledgling foodie, and a frequent traveler. She has lived in Morocco, Israel, India, and Barbados, and never wants to be cold again. Follow her on Twitter!