I’m apparently “better off single“—at least that’s what a majority of my exes have told me. I’ve heard that line so many times that I’m starting to believe it. I’m constantly stressing that my not-so-good characteristics actually do make me a crappy partner, but I’m trying to remember that’s not the case.
- I like to be the center of attention. I’m pretty much the definition of a Leo. I would never cheat on someone or anything like that, but I do enjoy all eyes being on me and I can’t seem to shake my need to be in the spotlight at all times. With that said, I do know how to read a room. If someone’s talking, I’m not going to cut them off and interject. I’m not that rude.
- I sweat the small stuff. Little things really get on my nerves, but unlike those who can ignore people’s annoying little quirks, I can’t. I have to talk it out. It’s important that I express my feelings to other people, even if they don’t want to hear it. I’m honest to a fault, which I personally think is one of my best qualities.
- I don’t trust people easily. It takes a very, very long time for me to trust someone. That’s not the problem, though. The issue is that people can tell very clearly that I don’t trust them. I don’t tell people everything and I keep secrets but it’s not because I’m sketchy! I just don’t believe two people can keep a secret, and since I know my own secrets, I can’t tell someone else unless I want it to get out into the public. Make sense?
- I name drop my ex pretty often. It’s not like I say his name in the middle of sex (it’s not like he was great in bed anyway) and I don’t drop his name because I miss him. I drop his name to remind myself of how non-beneficial that relationship was for me so I hopefully don’t make a similar mistake in the future.
- I’m too indecisive. I think I want something until I actually get it and then I realize I might not have wanted it in the first place. The chase turns me on and so does not knowing exactly what I’m interested in. A part of me wants to really sit down and spend time cleaning out the cobwebs in my brain, but another part of me is like, “Nah.” Ignorance is bliss, and I like the spontaneity I bring to my life and others.
- I ask a lot of questions. Maybe it’s the writer in me, but when people talk, I want to visualize what they’re telling me. I want to be able to see what they saw, almost as if I was there when it happened. My exes thought it was annoying that I asked a million and one “irrelevant” questions but it was my way of showing how much I care about their story.
- I’m very demanding. I like what I like. I’m accustomed to a certain lifestyle (and yes, I’m aware of how bougie that sounds), but that doesn’t mean I judge others or force people to do things they’re strongly against. I’m more of a pusher, I guess. I want the best out of people so I ask a few too many questions and have maybe a touch too high of expectations, but it’s for their own good.
- I always play devil’s advocate. Even if we both have similar values, I’m going to play as if I have an opposing belief, not just to be extra but to have a scholarly discussion! I don’t ever want to be insanely biased and I don’t want my partner to be either. Sure, my constant “what ifs” might be annoying, but at least I challenge people to think. I’m basically a professor with none of the experience or education.
- I have two personalities. I’m either all over my boyfriend to the point that I’m basically a stage 10 clinger or I’m way too independent to even be considered a girlfriend. I go between these two, equally dramatic personalities but I think that’s what makes me a good girlfriend. I’ll love you like crazy but I’ll also let you do your own thing.
- I’m a natural born homebody. While other people might like to go out and have fun, I live my best life sitting at home doing nothing. My exes couldn’t stand my homebody tendencies, especially because when I did go out, I was a blast—life of the freakin’ party. I hated it. If anything, I think that makes me a great girlfriend. No guy will ever have to worry about me making bad drunk decisions. You’re welcome!
- I’m not all that romantic. PDA isn’t really my jam and I’m also not a huge fan of showing affection in private. (Fun fact: I typically end up dating romantics so we balance each other out.) Don’t get me wrong, I’m not a sociopath who hates love. I show my romantic side when I’m really feeling it, which I think is better because when I do show it, people know I really mean it!