Parenting & Family
Adults who can’t enjoy a free Saturday without filling it with errands often grew up in homes where rest had to be earned and unscheduled time was a problem to be solved rather than something they were allowed to have
One of the quieter griefs of late life is watching your adult children raise their own kids without using most of what you tried to teach them
I’m 46 and my father called last weekend just to ask what I thought about something he’d read, and I almost missed it because that’s not what those calls have ever been, and I think he was trying to start something neither of us knows how to do
I’m 43 and I noticed last fall that I’m the one with my dad’s cardiologist’s number in my phone, the one who knows what medications my mom takes and which pharmacy fills which one, the one my sister texts when something needs to be decided, and nobody formally gave me the job, I just realized one day that I had it and that nobody else was going to take it
Psychology suggests many older adults aren’t lonely because they’re alone, they’re lonely because the people in their lives have stopped asking them anything they don’t already know the answer to
I’m 44 and my aging father has never told me he loves me out loud, and I’ve spent the last year making peace with the fact that he might die without ever doing it
I’m 42, and I realized last month that my kid is going to have therapy material about me no matter what I do, and the relief I felt when I stopped trying to avoid it was bigger than any parenting advice I’ve ever taken
Grandparents who actually get to be close with their grandkids do these 11 things differently than the ones who don’t