People Don’t “Grow On You” — If You Don’t Like Them, Don’t Date Them

People Don’t “Grow On You” — If You Don’t Like Them, Don’t Date Them ©iStock/massimofusaro

The kind of advice you get from those annoying coupled up people is to not give up on the person you’re dating because “they might grow on you” and “these things take time.” They tell you that you’re too choosy and share the fairy tale story of their friend Sarah who wasn’t so into the dude she was dating at first but now she’s obsessed! Screw that!

  1. That thing you hate will get worse. If there’s something you’re not too keen on right now, say your date’s cheeseball jokes or wild eyebrows, you need to know that’s probably not going to change. You’ll cringe more and more as time goes on. And you can’t expect them to change for you either.
  2. There’s some stuff you really don’t need to deal with. Now we’re talking about the less shallow reasons to bin somebody, the stuff that anybody in their right mind would find vile. For example, you really don’t have to put up with the -isms and the -phobias, as in racism, sexism, homophobia, xenophobia, etc. You’d be well within your rights to say goodbye to such fools.
  3. There might be somebody better out there for you. You know, as millennials, we expect to get all of our needs and desires at lightning speed or at the touch of a button. This definitely applies to your dating life too. You know for a fact that if you get rid of the person you’re really not feeling anymore you can get a new Tinder date by this evening.
  4. You deserve better. Not only might there be a better catch out there for you, you deserve it too. You’re a fine ass woman. Why should you have to date somebody with the same level of intelligence as your goldfish?
  5. What if they don’t grow on you? You take your friends’ advice and give the loser a chance. You go on one dreadful date after another, and what do you have to show for it at the end? Nothing. You’ve wasted your precious time on somebody with no sense of humor and a fungal nail infection.
  6. It’s better to be single than to settle. Relationship snobs just don’t understand that you’re very much as happy as they are despite not having an AMAZING boyfriend like them. You know better. You know that while you’re young, there’s nothing wrong with being a single pringle.
  7. You shouldn’t date somebody for the sake of it. Instead of dating an idiot because you don’t want to be alone, you need to grow some and learn to value your independence. And just because all of your squad have their boyfriends and girlfriends doesn’t mean that you have to. Remember that the grass is always greener – they’re probably more jealous of your single lifestyle than you are of their boring relationship. Let’s not forget that it’s really unfair to the person you’re dating too.
  8. You just know it’s not going to work. You know deep down if there’s chemistry or not, if it’s inevitably going to fall apart. I am a proponent of second dates because you can forgive somebody for not being their best self on the first date. But really you don’t need more than a couple of meetings to tell if you two just don’t have it.
Kelly is a freelance writer and editor from Manchester, UK.