People Who Always Choose Joy During Hardships Have These Enviable Traits

People Who Always Choose Joy During Hardships Have These Enviable Traits

We’ve all met that one person who just refuses to let life beat them down. While the rest of us are spiraling over the chaos, they’re out here smiling, finding the silver lining, and somehow making life feel lighter. It’s not that they’re immune to hardship—they just handle it differently. Here are the traits that help them stay grounded and joyful when life throws curveballs.

1. They Focus on What’s in Their Control

Instead of stressing about everything going wrong, they’re laser-focused on what they can fix or influence. They don’t waste energy raging at the unfairness of it all. Instead, they shift gears, find solutions, and keep it moving. They have this incredible ability to stay in their lane emotionally, and it’s totally enviable.

2. They Turn Setbacks Into Lessons

While most of us are busy throwing ourselves a pity party, these people are quietly asking, “What can I learn from this?” They don’t sugarcoat the pain or pretend it’s not there, but they do find a way to make it useful. Whether it’s learning patience or resilience, they see every hardship as a stepping stone rather than a dead end.

3. They Laugh—Even When It’s Hard

Sometimes life is so absurd, you just have to laugh. These people get that. They’ll find the humor in the darkest situations—not to brush it off, but because they know laughter has a way of softening the blow. It’s something we could all learn to do.

4. They’re Grateful for the Little Things

You know those people who can find something to be thankful for, even when life is a mess? They’re the ones who’ll point out how nice the sunset looks after a garbage day. It’s not performative gratitude—it’s real. They train their minds to look for the good, no matter how small, and it’s what keeps them going when the going gets tough.

5. They Don’t Let Fear Make Their Decisions

Fear is natural, sure, but these people don’t let it run the show. Instead of letting fear paralyze them, they face it head-on and keep moving. They know that most of the time, the thing they’re scared of isn’t as bad as they’ve built it up to be. And even if it is, they trust themselves to handle it. That kind of courage is contagious.

6. They See the Bigger Picture

When you’re in the thick of it, it’s easy to feel like the world is ending. But people who choose joy have this knack for zooming out. They remind themselves that today’s disaster won’t matter five years from now—or even five months. That perspective gives them a sense of calm and helps them navigate life’s storms without completely losing it.

7. They Lean on Their People

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No one gets through life alone, and these people know that better than most. They’ve built strong support systems and aren’t afraid to ask for help when they need it. Whether it’s calling a friend to vent or leaning on family, they understand that sharing the load makes it lighter. And honestly, their vulnerability makes them even more inspiring to be around.

8. They Adapt Like Pros

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If Plan A goes sideways, they’re already brainstorming Plan B, C, and D. These people don’t waste time clinging to how things were “supposed” to go. Instead, they pivot and find new ways forward. Their flexibility doesn’t just help them survive—it helps them thrive. They’re proof that sometimes, letting go of the plan is the best plan of all.

9. They’re Kind to Themselves

Self-compassion isn’t just a buzzword for these people—it’s a lifestyle. They don’t beat themselves up for feeling down or making mistakes. Instead, they treat themselves with the same kindness they’d offer a friend. That inner gentleness allows them to bounce back faster because they’re not carrying around a bunch of self-imposed guilt on top of everything else.

10. They Celebrate the Small Wins

While most of us are waiting for some big, life-changing moment to feel accomplished, these people find joy in the little things. Got through a tough day? That’s a win in their books. Fixed something that’s been bugging them? They celebrate it. When you notice and appreciate all the small victories, it creates a steady stream of positivity that keeps them going, even when life feels like a slog.

11. They Stay Curious

Instead of being crushed by life’s challenges, they approach them with a sense of curiosity. “What’s next?” “How will I handle this?” “What will this teach me?” This mindset keeps them from feeling defeated and helps them see hardships as opportunities to grow. It’s not naive—it’s intentional. They’ve decided to lean into life, no matter how messy it gets.

12. They Protect Their Energy

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These people are pros at setting boundaries. Whether it’s avoiding toxic people or saying no to things that drain them, they’re not afraid to prioritize their mental health. Protecting their energy isn’t selfish—it’s how they stay grounded. By focusing on what fuels them instead of what depletes them, they create a safe space to keep choosing joy, even during hard times.

13. They Embrace the Mess

Life is messy, and these people are more than okay with that. They don’t waste time chasing perfection or pretending everything’s fine when it’s not. Instead, they accept the chaos and find beauty in it. That kind of authenticity is refreshing, and it makes their joy feel real—not forced. They remind us that life doesn’t have to be perfect to be good.

14. They Reflect and Learn

When the dust settles, these people take time to reflect. What worked? What didn’t? What can they do differently next time? This habit of introspection helps them grow and keeps them from repeating the same mistakes. By turning hardships into learning experiences, they give their struggles meaning—and that meaning fuels their joy.

15. They Hold On to Their Passions

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Whether it’s painting, hiking, or baking, they make time for the things that light them up. These passions aren’t just hobbies—they’re lifelines. They remind them that there’s more to life than the hard stuff. By staying connected to what makes them happy, they create little moments of joy that carry them through even the darkest days.

16. They Believe Things Will Get Better

At their core, these people have hope. They know that tough times don’t last forever, and they trust in their ability to weather the storm. This belief isn’t just wishful thinking—it’s a choice. They’ve decided to believe in better days ahead, and that optimism is what keeps them moving forward. It’s what makes their joy so enviable and inspiring.

This content was created by a real person with the assistance of AI.

Georgia is a passionate story-teller and accomplished lifestyle journalist originally from Australia, now based in New York City. She writes lifestyle content for Bolde Media, publishers of Bolde, Star Candy and Earth Animals.