There’s No Such Thing As The Perfect Date, But This Is Pretty Close

There are no perfect people or perfect first dates, but if these 10 things happen, your evening is pretty close to the best night ever.

  1. You don’t even notice the time or use the bathroom. When you forget that you have a sudden urge to pee, you can be sure that you’re into a guy. It might sound like a joke but it’s actually true. How many bad first dates have you been on where your only escape is heading to the bathroom? Yeah, exactly. When you’re actually having a good time, you’re happy to stay put.
  2. You two never shut up. Ever. When you have a real conversation on a date, it’s like something totally magical happens. Sure, you would never admit that to him because he would think that you were being cheesy AF, but it’s exactly what you feel. It’s a great sign when you and this guy can’t stop talking to each other. It means that you have a connection and a lot of stuff in common. That’s no small thing in this dating culture.
  3. You avoid any awkward topics. There’s a time and a place for ex talk and the worst Tinder date you’ve ever been on, but it’s probably not the first date. It might sound old-fashioned to avoid talking about so-called controversial subjects the first time that you go out with a guy, but honestly, it’s best to steer clear. Since things are going well, you’ll most likely have time to share that stuff later on.
  4. You go beyond the cliche first date conversation. What’s your job? Where did you go to school? How long have you lived in your city? Of course you tend to ask and answer these questions on the first date, but that shouldn’t be all that you talk about, whether you already know the guy or met on a dating app. If you can dig deep and talk about more unconventional topics, things are going well.
  5. Everything feels different from your other dates. This is something that’s super subtle and might be hard for you to even articulate. It’s just a feeling that this guy and this date are different. You’re not seeing any red flags and nothing weird is happening—and it feels really good.
  6. There’s no “are we hanging out?” confusion. These days, it’s not uncommon to have no idea whether you’re on a real date or hanging out with a guy. On a nearly perfect date, though, there will be absolutely no confusion. It’s a date. You know it, he knows it, and he’ll probably even mention it at some point, which will confirm things even more.
  7. You don’t overthink it. When you’ve honestly met someone who is great, you’re not going to wonder if he likes you or if something weird is about to happen. You’ll feel so much more confident about where things are headed because it’s just going that well. It’s a massive change from the way that you usually act on dates.
  8. He pays. OK, so the question of who pays on a date is kind of controversial. Some girls want to pay so they can feel independent and they think that guys paying for them is sexist. Other girls want the guy to pay because it’s a sign of respect, or even just a sign that he thinks it’s a date. It’s a crazy confusing world and we’re all just living in it. If he takes care of the bills, it’s honestly a really sweet gesture and is like the icing on the cake.
  9. He straight-up tells you that he had fun. Yeah, you’re probably going to be pretty surprised to hear this. Someone is actually saying that they liked hanging out with you? While you know that you’re amazing and you’re definitely confident, it’s no secret that people suck at ending dates (and suck at dating even more). Not this guy. He’s into you and he wants you to know it.
  10. You definitely set up the next date. What good is a first date if there isn’t a second? When you’re having the (almost) perfect date, you guys totally have a plan for when you’re going to see each other next, or you at least make it super clear that this will happen. After all, you’ve lived and learned, and you know that when you click with someone, you don’t need to stare at your phone waiting for them to magically text you. You’re both on the same page and you just keep getting to know each other. And you sigh a massive sigh of relief. Because the perfect date has finally happened and it’s even better than you thought.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.