How To Know Whether The Person You’re Dating Wants A Relationship Or Is Totally Wasting Your Time

There are a select few tell-tale signs that the person you’re seeing wants to make you their one and only. If you’re not sure where you stand, this is what both men and women tend to do when they want to get serious with you.

  1. They text you constantly. You get several texts from them throughout the day, and not just to make plans. They want to make sure they keep your attention and make you laugh. If something weird or funny happens, they message you about it because you’re always at the forefront of their minds. Kinda sweet, isn’t it?
  2. They never miss a chance to see you. If you say that you’re only available at a certain time on a certain day, they do what they have to do to make it work. They go out of their way to make sure they get in some face time with you, even if that means rescheduling their own plans. You’re sometimes surprised at how willing they are to work around your schedule, but they’re just proving how much they really care about you.
  3. They talk about their childhood and dark times in their lives. You don’t have to pry it out of them—they bring up their past and all the tough times they’ve been through in their lives all on their own because they feel that comfortable around you. Isn’t that nice? They want to lay a foundation of trust between you and their willingness to open up is proof that they can really see this going somewhere.
  4. They invite you to meet their friends and family. You know they want you to be their S.O. if they show you off to the other people who matter most to them in life. If they’re serious about you, they integrate you into their tribes sooner rather than later. More than that, they keep you close all night and make sure EVERYONE knows how much they like you.
  5. All of their friends already know about you. When you meet their friends or family, they’ve already heard a ton about you. It’s kind of like you’re famous in a very small but cool way.
  6. They ask you to sleep over. If they want you to stay for more cuddles and pillow talk after hooking up, you can bet they want more than just a FWB situation or a casual lay. They clearly love your company in and out of the bedroom and they want to make sure you know it.
  7. They don’t pressure you into sex. If you tell them you’re not ready to go all the way, people who are serious about you will gladly wait. If they’re using you for sex, that’s the end of things, but if they actually care about you and see more long-term potential, they know you’re worth it to wait.
  8. They take interest in your interests. If you tell them about a movie or a book or a certain thing you’re excited about, they’ll actually look into it and maybe even surprise you with a gift having to do with that specific thing. They want to be a part of your world and if that means they have to start liking the musical CATS, they’ll do it.
  9. They give you a lot of likes. Social media isn’t the best measure on figuring out if people are into you, but if they’re liking every new status update and photo you post, they’re showing you how much they care about you.
  10. They actually call you on the phone. Imagine the kind of courage and care it takes to actually call someone on the phone nowadays. Any kind of apprehension and nervousness will be overwritten by their need to just hear your voice and connect with you.
  11. They get you gifts out of nowhere. They’ll randomly surprise you with a gift that somehow means SO MUCH to you. You’ll ask yourself, “How did they know I liked vintage puppets?” Well, they just know, and it’s kind of the best.
  12. They’re interested in your dating history. They want to know what kind of relationships you’ve had in the past, why they ended, and what kind of people you’ve dated. This is all information they’ll use to help make their final decision to ask you to be their partner.
  13. They use their phones and social media accounts right in front of you. They have nothing to hide because you’re the only girl they’re interested in right now. They trust you to not snoop in their stuff, so they keep their phones out on the table and sometimes let you use their computers without being paranoid about what’s on there. Pretty sweet.
Jennifer is a playwright, dancer, and theatre nerd living in the big city of Toronto, Canada. She studied Creative Writing at Concordia University and works as a lifestyle writer who focuses on Health, B2B, Tech, Psychology, Science, Food Trends and Millennial Life. She's also a coreographer, playwright, and lyricist, with choreography credits for McMaster University’s “Spring Awakening,” “Roxanne” for the Guelph Contemporary Dance Festival, and “The Beaver Den” for The LOT, among others.

You can see more of her work on her Contently page and follow her on Instagram @jenniferenchin.