Playing Games Doesn’t Work — Just Be You

There’s absolutely nothing attractive about a person who thinks that playing games in a relationship is okay. It may seem like casual fun now, but if you can’t be open and honest about your feelings or commit to one person you’re going to lose in love. Here’s why:

  1. It shows your immaturity. No grown, respectable adult will play games. The ones who do are immature children who think that hurting someone is some kind of accomplishment. Well, congratulations — you’re a jerk. No one should ever want to be with a person who knowingly and happily plays with their emotions.
  2. It proves you don’t know what you want. If you’re going to tell me one thing and do another, talk to other potential love interests, or be unable to decide if you like me or not even though we’ve hooked up and you keep calling me back, you clearly have no idea who you are or what you want out of a relationship. Maybe you can’t help that you play games because you’re so unsure about your own happiness, but that’s all on you.
  3. You’ll end up alone. After you’ve run your game all over town, there will be no one left for you. Maybe you’ll get lucky and infiltrate a new crowd and mess with those new hot people for a while, but when it’s all said and done, you’ll realize that being alone is no one’s fault but your own. No one’s going to feel bad for you.
  4. Anyone who’s worth it won’t stick around. I’m all about casual dating, but you have to respect yourself. If a person continues to date you even though she knows you’re playing games and messing with her head, she’s not a great girl. She’s accepting something she doesn’t deserve. A spineless doormat will be they type of person you end up with… if you even end up with someone. The self-respecting people that you’ll actually want will walk away from your games and never look back.
  5. Your smooth talking will only get you so far. Your lies and games will only work for so long before someone will be able to see right through all of your BS. You may have that charismatic act down to a science, but it’s only surface level. You may get a high five from one of your friends, but you’ll get a palm to the face if you keep it up.
  6. People talk. In case you’ve been living under a rock and don’t know, everyone talks. A lot. If you aren’t acting right, word will spread like wildfire. This will eventually make it impossible for you to date anyone in town. A bad reputation is avoidable if you act right, but it’s not something you can run away from.
  7. You attract what you put out in the world. If you’re the type of person who messes with other people’s feelings, chances are the same thing will happen to you. The people you choose to hang out with are a clear indication of what type of person you are. If you find yourself surrounded by douchebags, look in the mirror and then think about getting new friends.
  8. You’re not as smart as you think you are. An intelligent person won’t put up with your games. In fact, they will dish it right back. Mess with the wrong guy or girl and you’ll soon regret getting a taste of your own medicine.
  9. You lack empathy. You clearly don’t feel bad about what you’re doing. If you don’t understand how hurtful it is to mess with someone’s head, what kind of person are you? Try to put yourself in the other position and ask yourself how it would feel to have your emotional strings pulled on a regular basis by someone you care about. Not being to relate to other people isn’t exactly an attractive quality.
  10. You’re a loser. I don’t just mean that you might end up alone or that no good partner will have you. You’re a loser in the true sense of the word: doomed to disappoint and a downright low life. Get over yourself — it’s time to grow up.
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