It’s Pretty Typical To Overthink These 12 Things When You’re Into Someone

If you’ve been called “dramatic,” “insecure,” or “crazy” because you analyze guys’ actions a little too much, know that you’re none of those descriptors. Sure, you might spend your nights replaying the text conversation you had with your crush earlier that day, but who doesn’t? Overthinking things doesn’t mean you’re crazy, it means you’re “in like” (maybe even in love) with the guy in question.

  1. Why He’s Taking So Long To Text Back. Is he not replying on purpose? Is it because he wants to seem cool? Is he actually busy or is he just not interested in talking to you? His inability to text back opens the door to a ton of questions, questions that make you unsure of his true feelings.
  2. When You Should Text. Should you wait a minute after opening his message? An hour? Or, should you just respond immediately? You hate games but you don’t want him to think you’ve been waiting for his text. However, you also don’t want him to think you’re uninterested. Ugh, why is this so difficult?
  3. If You Should Make A Move. You don’t want to seem clingy or overly invested. Especially because you don’t know exactly where his head is. He could like you, but there’s a chance he won’t (and that’d be his loss). Maybe you’ve over dramatized the entire relationship and, in actuality, you guys are just friends. You don’t want to make a move that you’ll never be able to take back.
  4. Where You Guys Should Hang Out. If you go to dinner, you might struggle with conversation topics. If you go to a movie, you won’t be able to talk at all. If you go over to his place, he might think you’re just interested in sleeping with him. You want to go somewhere fun that won’t add any additional pressure. Where the hell is that?
  5. What You Should Wear. You don’t want to wear something too revealing, but you want him to know that you have boobs. Plus, it’s cold outside, so whatever you wear, you’ll need a jacket. What if you get hot? Where do you put the jacket? Around your waist? That won’t look right! You want to wear something cute, something that looks more comfortable than upscale. Unfortunately, that outfit doesn’t seem to exist in your current closet.
  6. If His Words Have A Deeper Meaning. “I’m excited to see you tonight!” He wouldn’t say that if you guys were just friends… would he? No! He obviously likes you. If he was only interested in friendship, he wouldn’t be going out with you tonight. After all, it’s Friday night — that’s the world’s agreed upon “date night.” He’s interested, for sure… right?
  7. What You Look Like. Is there food in your teeth? Does your hair look too messy in this messy bun? Does your breath smell? Should you opt for something light to eat even though you’re starving (because you were too nervous to eat before you left the house)? Can he tell that you’re freaking out?
  8. If His Looks Mean Something. You glanced over at him, he was already looking at you, your eyes locked, and he smiled! If a stranger glanced your way, you’d dismiss it and call him a perv. But, this isn’t a stranger! So, instead of dropping it, you’re going to give this action a serious thought. How long was he looking at you before you noticed? Was it because you had something in your hair? Was he picturing you naked or was he staring in admiration because he’s in love with you?
  9. When You Should Sleep With Him. You want to sleep with him but you don’t want to do it too soon. You don’t want him to think you’re easy, even though you’d be more than willing to do the deed on the first date. Instead of giving into your urges, you go back and forth, debating on what an “appropriate time” to have sex even is.
  10. If He’s Dating Other People. You saw him talking to another girl at a bar. He wasn’t necessarily flirting with her, but it made you wonder — do a couple of amazing dates automatically mean you’re in an exclusive relationship? Is he dating other people? And if he is, would he tell you or is that something you should be finding out yourself via stalking on social media?
  11. If You Should Be Dating Other People. If he’s dating other people, should you also be dating other people? You don’t really want to, though. You like the idea of just dating one person at a time — dating multiples sounds exhausting. But, maybe you should be… just in case you two don’t end up working out.
  12. What Your Official “Status” Is. Are you guys just dating, “talking,” or in an actual relationship? Should you ask or is that a given? You don’t want to ask because it seems like something he should bring up. Maybe it’s anti-feminist of you, but you don’t want to be the one to ask, “So…what are we?”  You’re too shy for that anyway. You’d rather just overthink what your official relationship status is by discussing it (way too much) with your friends.
Jordan White is a writer based in Scottsdale, Arizona with more than 8 years of experience. She graduated from Northern Arizona University with a degree in Rhetoric and Creative Writing in 2015 and while there, she wrote for The Daily Wildcat. She has since written for sites including FanBread, and, of course, Bolde. You can find about more her on Facebook. She has a passion for giving her audience something to laugh about and despises the heat more than anything.