Proof Men & Women Aren’t All That Different

They say men are from Mars and women are from Venus, and surely we could spend half the day pointing out just the small differences between us that seem to cause endless conflict. But ultimately deep down inside we’re not all that different. I promise!

  1. We all get scared in relationships. We might act it out in different ways, but no one likes feeling vulnerable, and everyone who has any sort of human ego feels vulnerable from time to time.
  2. We all get scared about life in general. No one knows exactly what’s going to happen in life, although we all hope it’s our deepest dreams manifesting easily before us. We all have to take the risks and accept the not knowing.
  3. We all get sad. Maybe men don’t cry quite as often as we do over chick flicks and “fat days”, but men still have the same human emotions that we do.
  4. We all like sex. Our motives of going after it might be slightly different some of the time, and yet we all want it, and we all do it.
  5. We all get inspired by awesome people and experiences. Everyone likes to feel like amazing things are possible in the world, particularly when they happen for ourselves.
  6. We all need people. Humans are hardwired to depend on each other for reproduction, survival, you name it. It’s natural to want to be close to people.
  7. We all battle the same vices. Be it pizza and mimosas or something a little more serious, we’ve all got the same types of cravings residing in us.
  8. We’re all someone’s child. No matter how old we get, we’ll all always be someone’s baby, which has its blessings and its challenges.
  9. Many of us want families of our own. Not everyone has the urge to get married and make babies, but many people do, and it’s not just the ladies.
  10. We all hurt people. Ideally this is usually done either unintentionally or out of necessity, but we’ve all been on the giving side of a painful blow and then had to sort through the resulting feelings that it caused.
  11. Science says we’re not that different. A study done at the University of Rochester determined that our psychological characteristics aren’t really that different, but that everyone is at different spots on a single continuum.
  12. We’ve all been hurt. No matter who you are, you’ve probably been denied by someone of the opposite sex. It happens from small scale disses to total heart smashings.
  13. We all want to be feel successful. What defines success changes from person to person but no one likes to feel like they missed the train toward personal achievement.
  14. We all mistakes. Sometimes really terrible ones. And we all have to get back up and try again because that’s just how life works.
  15. We all want to be loved. At the end of the day we all just want to feel appreciated, honored, and no strings attached loved for who we truly are.
Kate Ferguson is a Los Angeles local and freelance writer for a variety of blog and magazine genres. When she's not writing, the UC Davis graduate is focused on pursuits of the entertainment industry, spin class, and hot sauce. Look for article links, updates, (and the occasional joke) on Twitter @KateFerg or @WriterKateFerg, or check out her personal blog