Proof That You’re Better At Dating Than You Think

When you’re single and looking but never seem to progress past the second or third date, it’s easy to think that you’re a total failure. If dating is a test, then progressing to a relationship would be your A+, right? Not so fast. You’re way better at dating than you think, even if it doesn’t feel that way.

  1. Guys want second dates.Sometimes it’s good to remind yourself that when you’re going on a bunch of first dates with no second round, it’s because you made the choice not to see those guys again. If guys often want to see you again, then you’re definitely succeeding, because you’re showing the world that you’re girlfriend material.
  2. You make people laugh. Having a great sense of humor is nothing to sneeze at. You should be proud if you can make your dates laugh. When you do meet someone awesome, hopefully you can make each other laugh and it’ll be a match made in funny heaven.
  3. You laugh a lot, too. Where some would cry at their so-called bad luck, you can see the comic relief in literally any situation that you find yourself in. That means you’re always a success, no matter what.
  4. You’re not afraid of dates. You know how bad an evening can go and that doesn’t faze you in the least. You’re not scared of a bad date and have gotten pretty comfortable chatting with strangers at this point. You’re great at small talk and that’s not always a bad thing.
  5. You can read guys well. Going on a first date is kind of like being in a psych class — you know which text messages are worth analyzing and which dates you never want to see again. You can tell what kind of person someone is within the first half hour of your date.
  6. You swear by your gut. If you can get yourself out of a messy situation before it really develops, congrats. It’s awesome to live and love by your gut instincts, and that will serve you well in the search for The One. You probably save yourself a lot of heartache and tears (or at least you never get ghosted because you’re the one to call it quits).
  7. You’re super confident. There’s not much point even trying to find a relationship if you’re self-conscious, because that’s no fun for you or the other person. It’s awesome that you can approach anyone so confidently and that just means you’ll make an amazing girlfriend once you find the right guy.
  8. You keep at it. You can’t fail at something if you keep going, so it’s awesome that you won’t give up. You’ve been tempted to swear off dating forever many times but you know that’s not the greatest idea.
  9. You ignore the haters. Your aunt won’t stop complaining to your mom that you’re still unmarried and your coworker won’t stop trying to set you up when you’ve said you’re not interested. You keep an actual real smile plastered on your face and totally ignore anyone who thinks you’re not enjoying your single life.
  10. You rarely complain. It’s OK to lament how hard it is to find a guy these days but it’s not fun for anyone if that’s all you do. You’re happy the way you are, though, and you rarely whine about your lack of love life. That makes you a winner any day.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.