Quiz: Do I Like Him Or Just The Attention He Gives Me?

Quiz: Do I Like Him Or Just The Attention He Gives Me?

Enjoying the attention someone gives you can feel a lot like having genuine feelings for them, so it’s easy to get the two confused. While these two may feel similar, they’re actually pretty different: liking the attention someone gives you isn’t specific to them. You can get attention from anyone, and it’s about making you feel special and validated. On the other hand, really liking someone is about them. You are drawn to them specifically and, when you feel like that, no one can take their place. So, here’s how to tell whether you really like him, or just the attention he gives you.

  1. You like him: You genuinely care how his day is. When you like someone, it’s normal to care about them. You genuinely want to hear how their day is going. You remember to check in and see how that job interview went, or how their friend’s wedding was. It’s normal to become emotionally invested in their life. By comparison, when you just like the attention they give you, you tend not to care about how their day was or how their life is going.
  2. You like the attention he gives: You leave him on read. Do you often leave him on read? This could be a sign that you like the attention he gives you and nothing else. When you leave someone on read, you know they’re waiting for you to reply. This can say a lot about your level of interest in them, according to the experts. And there’s a good chance you like the idea of him constantly checking his phone to see if you’ve replied.
  3. You like him: You stick around even when things get tough. If you really like him, you won’t run when things get difficult. Sooner or later, all relationships face obstacles. When there are hurdles to overcome, you won’t bother if you don’t really like him. Instead, you’ll just move on to the next guy who will give you attention. And when that becomes difficult, you’ll move on to someone else.
  4. You like the attention he gives: You talk to several guys at once. Generally, if you are into monogamous relationships, you won’t feel the need to date multiple people if you really like one person. Whereas if you have a bunch of people you’re talking to simultaneously, you probably don’t like any one of them that much.
  5. You like him: You don’t notice other guys. When you really like someone, you probably don’t even notice other people. You might know they’re there and have a few passing thoughts. But you’re not paying attention the way you do when you’re single and looking for a date. If you’re just with someone for the attention they give you, then there’s nothing to stop you from checking out others.
  6. You like the attention he gives: You can’t be bothered with his flaws. You’ll never find a guy who doesn’t have flaws. The test of whether he really is the one for you is if you can accept those flaws. Research shows that you’re not likely to mind when the person you like does something unattractive. When you don’t really like a guy, just the attention he gives, his imperfections will annoy you. You won’t have the patience to put up with them. And if his flaws become too obvious, you’re likely to move on. After all, you can get attention from anywhere. A guy you really like is irreplaceable.
  7. You like him: You put as much effort into the relationship as he does. If you really like a guy, and he really likes you, the relationship will be a two-way street. You will put in an equal amount of effort. That’s not the case when you just like the attention. When it’s attention you’re after, you’ll probably sit back and allow him to do all the work. Then you’ll get the feeling of being chased.
  8. You like the attention he gives: You don’t actually want to spend time with him. This may seem like an obvious question, but do you actually want to spend time with him? When he asks you out, are you always thinking of excuses? If you don’t want to spend time with him, then you probably don’t like him seriously. You might like it when his name pops up on your phone or he comments on your social media posts. But when push comes to shove, you don’t actually like him for him.
  9. You like him: You want the best for him. It’s pretty simple: when you like someone, you want the best for them. You think about that person’s needs and try to meet them. You care about their feelings. Their happiness matters to you like that of a best friend or family member.
  10. You like the attention he gives: His needs don’t matter to you. If you don’t like someone, then their needs aren’t one of your priorities. If your relationship is all about what you want and need, and he doesn’t even come into your consideration, you probably don’t feel that strongly about him. Instead, you might just enjoy the attention and validation that you get from him.
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