I’d Rather Be Forever Alone Than Deal With Dating

For some people, the idea of being single is the worst thing that could ever happen to them. Not me. While I really want to meet a great guy, so far all I’ve come across are losers, players, or jerks who did more damage than good in my life. All of my experiences have put me off relationships to the point where I’d almost rather be alone forever than jump back into the dating pool.

  1. My time is precious. There are only so many hours in the day, and I’m not sure any of them are worth dedicating to going out with guys who are only going to end up disappointing me. Dating requires a lot of time and effort that could be used towards any number of other, better things. If the right person comes along, then I’ll be ready to put in time and effort, but wasting time going on random dates in the meantime isn’t really worth it.
  2. There are way too many options. With SO many guys out there, you’d think it’d be easier to find a good one. Instead, it’s the exact opposite and it’s nearly impossible to differentiate one guy from another. They all kinda meld together into one indistinguishable mass of dude-ness that’s confusing, frustrating, and just… really annoying.
  3. I’m not interested in competing. Entering the dating pool means that you’re also competing against every other woman who’s doing the same thing in order to get the attention of one of the rare unicorn guys. It shouldn’t be a competition, though. It should just be two people who’re mutually interested in each other. I don’t want to go out with someone who is also going out with three other people in that same week.
  4. The dating pool only gets smaller the older you get. It’s only natural that as you get older, there are fewer single guys that you’d actually be interested in dating (and fewer single guys period). And as the dating pool gets smaller, the chances of you finding someone in that pool also gets smaller. The whole thing can seem pretty hopeless at times, to be honest.
  5. Dating gets exhausting very quickly. There’s nothing worse than going on date after date and not getting anywhere. It gets exhausting and disappointing after a while and it’s a miracle that anyone continues to do it. I don’t want to waste my time and energy on someone who isn’t going to be the person that I end up with, and yet part of me knows I kinda have to, at least to some degree, if I don’t want to be single for the rest of my life.
  6. Constantly dating never actually leads to a serious relationship, at least for me. Having your eyes on the prize means cutting out the distractions that are keeping you from getting to where you want to be. Dating multiple people at once yields a ton of distractions. Getting into a serious relationships means focusing on just one person and getting to know them and them only, but I also have to find that one person before I can get to that stage. WTF?
  7. I’m an all or nothing kind of woman. Entering the dating pool means going on date after date with no guarantee of ever meeting someone you’re actually interested in. I’d rather put all of my eggs in one basket for the right person and build a relationship rather than spread my time for people who aren’t worth it. In other words, I’d prefer to meet someone organically than actually going out looking for love.
  8. Being alone isn’t so bad. If you know how to be okay with being alone, then you won’t need someone to dictate your happiness. My happiness doesn’t depend on the presence of another person in my life — it’s something I take control of myself. Sure, when I meet someone amazing and fall in love, I’m sure I’ll be even happier than I am now, but being single doesn’t mean I’m miserable.
  9. I don’t mind waiting for the right person to come along naturally. Patience is a virtue, and sometimes, that’s exactly the way to go. You can chase people for years and miss out on someone that was actually chasing you. Sometimes, it’s better to just stay still and wait, and that’s exactly what I plan on doing.
  10. My life doesn’t revolve around meeting “The One.” Being alone isn’t the end of the world. We all enter the world alone and we all leave the world alone. It would be wonderful to meet someone, but if it doesn’t happen, then that’s okay too. I can have a full life without being in a relationship. I have an amazing family, awesome friends, hobbies, a career, etc. That’s good enough for me.
Lindsey is a Digital Advertising Professional and Freelance Writer based in New York City. In her spare time, she enjoys running, traveling, and drinking ridiculous amounts of coffee. Follow her on Twitter @lindseyruns