What Reaching Your One-Month Anniversary Means For Your Relationship

You’ve done your fair share of swiping right and had plenty of conversations with matches that turned out to be total duds. However, you’ve finally met someone you like and before you know it, it’s your one-month anniversary as an unofficial couple. This is certainly exciting, but what does it mean for your relationship? Read on to find out what this mini-milestone signifies as well as some tips on how not to get ahead of yourself too quickly.

Why is the one-month anniversary meaningful?

These days, many connections don’t make it past the first date, let alone the first 30 days. By continuing to date someone for a full month, it proves that there’s interest there. While it’s still early days, reaching your one-month anniversary with someone is enough to give you hope that maybe this one will last. Considering you haven’t been ghosted yet and this person still seems into you, you could be right.

In other words, you’re on the right path. You’ve stayed engaged and attracted to one another and you’re both keen to keep going. It’s a promising sign that you’ve met someone who suits you and who’s on the same page about looking for love. That’s worth celebrating, for sure.

Things you should know about the person you’re dating after a month

  1. If you have chemistry This was probably blatantly obvious on the first date. Maybe you were inexplicably drawn to each other or the sexual tension was through the roof. That immediate connection is great, but it takes some time getting to know someone to tell if your daily lifestyles are compatible. By your one-month anniversary, you should have a pretty good idea of their interests and habits and whether they gel with yours.
  2. What they’re looking for in a relationship/partner This is a discussion you should be having early on. While it might not be first date conversation, it should come pretty soon after so that neither of you is wasting your time. If they want to keep things casual while you’re eventually looking for a serious relationship, it will never work. It’s important to be upfront about what you’re hoping for from day one.
  3. What they’re like in bed Whether you’re someone who likes to have sex on the first date or you wait a few weeks, you should have slept with them by your one-month anniversary. This means you know whether they’re selfish or giving in bed and how compatible you are between the sheets. Sexual incompatibility may not be a deal breaker for everyone, but it can be for some. How do you connect in this way?
  4. Whether or not you want to be exclusive or see other people You may not be boyfriend and girlfriend yet (or girlfriend and girlfriend or simply partners) yet. That’s fine. However, you should know whether you’re into each other enough to simply focus on that connection. If not, and one or both of you still wants to see other people, that may mean you’re not quite right for each other.
  5. If you’re happy Well, are you? Staying with someone who doesn’t fill you with joy and make you feel comfortable and cared for is pointless. By now you should know whether their presence is a welcome addition to your life or more of a headache. If it’s the latter, let this be the last anniversary you “celebrate” together.

Important things to keep in mind

  1. A month isn’t really a long time. While there’s no harm in getting excited about a relationship that seems to be progressing, you have to pace yourself. Even if you go on dates five nights a week (which is unrealistic), there’s still a lot you don’t know about each other. Continue taking the time to explore each other and see how your lives mesh. You may discover down the line that you’re not such a good fit for one another after all. Conversely, you may decide you’re perfect together. Hopefully, that ends up being the case!
  2. You’ve made a promising start, but you still have a long way to go. Even if things are going perfectly right now, that’s not a guarantee that they won’t go south. Happy, healthy long-term relationships take months or even years to secure. Each and every milestone you check off on your list is meaningful and special in its own way. And though you should be optimistic and go in with an open heart, don’t let yourself get so carried away that you’re destroyed if it goes wrong.
  3. Things should still be really good right now. On your one-month anniversary, you’re still very much in the honeymoon period. It’s those wonderful few months when everything is new and exciting. You can’t keep your hands off each other, you’re perfect in each other’s eyes, and you’re blindingly happy in their presence. Enjoy that time! It’s one of the best parts of dating. That being said, if you’re a month in and things aren’t great, it may be worth reevaluating the relationship.
  4. Not everyone sees the one-month anniversary as a milestone. It’s great that you’ve come so far, but not everyone sees four weeks of dating as a big milestone. Don’t be disheartened if your partner isn’t as excited about the occasion as you are. That doesn’t make it less special, but it may mean that they’re not as keen on making a big deal about it as you are. Don’t let that get you down. You may be on the path to something amazing!
Jennifer Still is a writer and editor with more than 10 years of experience. The managing editor of Bolde, she has bylines in Vanity Fair, Business Insider, The New York Times, Glamour, Bon Appetit, and many more. You can follow her on Twitter @jenniferlstill