Is He The Real Deal Or A Waste Of Time? 10 Signs He’s Worth The Investment

When your feelings are in overdrive, it’s hard to see your relationship for what it really is, and if you’ve been hurt in the past, you’re probably hesitant about opening up your heart again. The good news is that you can save yourself a bunch of time by simply watching a guy’s actions. If he does any of these things, don’t be afraid to go all in:

  1. He’s an Open Book. Secrets? What secrets? If he’s serious about you, he’ll be an open book. He won’t hide things from you to appear more mysterious and you won’t have to pry information out of him either. He’ll be more than willing to tell you all about his past, present, and future. This type of guy doesn’t come around often, so hold on to him tight.
  2. Feelings Don’t Freak Him Out. We’ve all dated an emotionally unavailable guy or two. In fact, it can really catch you off guard when you finally meet someone who ISN’T afraid to wear his heart on his sleeve. If you can cry in front of him and he doesn’t back away, or if he sheds a tear when his childhood pet dies, he’s definitely a keeper. Having a guy like this in your life comes in handy when life takes a turn for the worse. You’ll know he won’t run for the hills whenever things get rough.
  3. He Never Goes M.I.A. He’s always in contact with you whether it be by text message, phone call, or email. The guy who’s worth your time will never let more than a few days go by without checking in on you.
  4. He Never Flakes. You don’t have to worry about whether he’s going to show up on your date night or not. If he schedules an outing with you, he’ll be there on time, looking all dapper in his outfit and smelling amazing, of course. He’s dependable, reliable, and definitely worth your time. He’ll never let you down!
  5. He Never Gives You a Reason to Not Trust Him. If you’ve been hurt in the past, you’ve probably dealt with a guy who couldn’t be trusted, and you know just what it feels like when you’re in a relationship with someone who’s up to no good. With this new guy, you never have to doubt anything he says. When he tells you he’s going to bed at 9 p.m. on a Friday night, you believe him because he’s never given you a reason to not trust him. If the thought of him betraying you has never even crossed your mind, it’s a pretty good sign.
  6. He Says What He Means. He doesn’t talk in riddles and you’re not left feeling confused after every conversation. Since day one, he was clear about his intentions, the kind of relationship he was looking for, and what was in store for the future for the two of you. If you had any doubts about whether you should give your all in this situation, the answer is yes!
  7. Your Dates are Exciting. He’ll surprise you with a spontaneous date every now and then. But most of the time, he plans something elaborate and exciting for the two of you. He always keeps you on your toes, and you never know what’s going to come next. This is the type of excitement that’s needed to make a long-term relationship last, and there’ll never be a dull moment when the two of you are together.
  8. His Exes are Distant Memories. It’s not that he ended things on a bad note, but he’s the type of guy who knows it’s best to leave the past in the past. He doesn’t have former booty calls texting him at the wee hours of the morning, and he isn’t keeping his first love in the background just in case things with you don’t work out. This is rare to find in a guy, so you’re lucky if this describes your situation.
  9. His Friends Are Settling Down. If his friends are still party animals who are just trying to get laid, he’ll most likely engage in those same activities just to fit in with his bros. But if his friends are all starting to settle down and have families, you need to scoop this guy up right away. It’s a good sign when a guy’s best friends are in committed relationships because it means he’ll most likely feel the urge to settle down, too.
  10. He Wants You to be Happy. He’s not about drama and bullshit. He doesn’t want to make you cry or make you sad. He just wants you to be happy no matter what. He’ll bring you flowers just because or rub your feet after a long day. He’ll even make a late night taco run when you’re craving Mexican food. He’s selfless and giving because it makes him feel good when he knows he’s making you happy. You’ve found the unicorn of boyfriends. Don’t be afraid to let your guard down and give him 100 percent.
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