The Real Reason I’m Single Is Pretty Simple

The Real Reason I’m Single Is Pretty Simple ©iStock/alexandr_1958

As women, we have so many explanations for why we’re still unattached. We claim we’re super busy, we’re in love with our careers, we’re making sure the guy we commit to fits that elusive Perfect Boyfriend list… but there’s a super simple reason I’m still single: I haven’t met anyone I like… yet.

  1. Every date is the same. I’m sick of talking about myself. I’m tired of the questions about hobbies and jobs and travel plans. I need to feel a connection, and that’s unfortunately super rare on most first dates. I’m holding out until there’s an actual conversation and not just a list of questions.
  2. Humor is crucial. You wouldn’t think someone could be totally humorless, but it’s possible. I’ve been on lots of dates where guys have zero sense of humor and any jokes or funny stories get nothing but blank stares. Is a sense of humor too much to ask?
  3. I hate games. If you’re sitting on the fence about me, I’m gone. If you like me, tell me. If you’re not sure, well, that just tells me that you’re super immature.
  4. I hate almost relationships. If I’m into you, I don’t want to be your almost girlfriend or someone you’re kind of seeing. From now on, I’m taking myself out of the running when things get murky.
  5. I want something real. It doesn’t seem crazy to save second dates for real connections and people I really like. Otherwise, I’d rather catch up on my TV shows and chill out. I’m finished going on dates just for the sake of it.
  6. I text like a human being. Sorry, but it’s not the 1950s anymore. I’m not going to sit by the phone (even if it’s an iPhone and you’re texting, not calling). I want someone who texts me back.
  7. I actually make plans. Recently, I was chatting with someone online who took four days to make a plan. Four days. I’m not meeting you if making the first date plan is super complicated. I want someone who can make plans just as easily.
  8. I value honesty. It’s weird how honesty used to be the best policy but is now seen as uncool. Guess what? You’re not cool if you pretend not to have feelings for someone, you’re just destined to be single for the rest of your life. A lot of people haven’t been honest with me in the past. There have been almost relationships and weird texting behavior and I’m over it.
  9. I have real dealbreakers. No, I don’t care about hair color or your job. There’s nothing wrong with having a few things I can’t deal with. I can’t date you if you take forever to contact me after we go out, if you hate your job, or if you’re not funny. You should also probably have a Netflix account (I’ve actually met guys who have never seen a single Netflix show… actually). If you have a crippling TV addition like me, well, it just might be a match made in pop culture heaven.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.