Making fun of ourselves for being single AF has become a running joke for rolling solo long-term, and it makes sense. After all, injecting a little humor into a situation that society still looks down on is one way to make the stigma a little more bearable. Here’s why so many of us are so self-deprecating:
- To ward off off pity parties. Sure, we can admit that being single comes with periods of loneliness and feelings of frustration, but it’s not like that all the time. We’re not actually sitting at home crying in desperation and drowning our sorrows in a pint of Ben & Jerry’s. Poking fun of ourselves allows us to mellow down the temporary dramas that live inside our minds in the absence of a relationship.
- To shut down awkward and obnoxious conversations. Do you know how many times people have asked us why we’re single or spouted cliches about how we’ll find love when we least expect it? While we totally appreciate the words of encouragement, we can’t help but make a joke about how single AF we actually are to shut down the convo ASAP.
- To beat everyone else to the punch. At a certain point when you’re SAF, people start talking crap about you or even to you in a negative way. We know the whispers – the “she can never keep a guy around” or “she’s single and obsessed with her cat”— so it’s just easier to beat everyone to the punch and make fun of ourselves before other people can do it. We really DGAF.
- It’s hilarious. If you’ve never had an SAF moment, you’ve missed out. It’s actually pretty hilarious when you catch yourself lounging in a unicorn onesie with a bottle of wine, yelling,“WHO THE HELL IS A?” at Pretty Little Liars on Netflix. It sounds sad, but to us, it’s literally the perfect night.
- To scope out some new friends. In case you haven’t heard, being single AF is almost kind of trendy. We’ve all formed a new alliance, and even though it sometimes comes with its share of downsides, it also comes with pretty sweet bonding moments with other single AF ladies. In fact, we’re waiting for Mark Zuckerberg to create the “Single AF” relationship status option.
- To show that we’re secure in our status. We’ve long since passed the stage where we were desperately seeking love and we’ve moved into the “meh” zone where it still appeals to us, but we’re not going to let it consume us to the point that we’re constantly upset about not having it. We’re happily single, and completely fine with whatever happens.
- Because we can. Just like the happy couples flaunt their love online for all of us to see on social media, we’ll happily flaunt our SAF lives. Only instead of a cute kissy picture to caption with #datenight, we’ll post a picture of our feet in our footed pink unicorn onesie resting on the coffee table, with a bottle of wine sitting beside us, #singleAF.