The Real Reasons Women With Low Confidence Have Trouble Finding A Date

You aren’t having trouble finding a date because you’re unattractive or have an unbearable personality. You’re single for a completely different reason. It all has to do with the way you think. Here are a few reasons why women with low confidence have trouble finding a date:

  1. You assume he isn’t interested. Even if a guy is sending you positive signals, you’ll ignore them, because you don’t think it’s possible for him to like someone like you. You’ll miss out on the chance to date some pretty amazing guys, because you’ll assume that they see you the same way you see yourself.
  2. Your body language is keeping him away. If you always have your head buried in a book or your earphones tucked into your ears, you’ll look unapproachable. If you give off the vibe that you don’t want to be bothered, then sexy men are going to walk right by you.
  3. You overthink simple conversations. When you actually talk to your crush, you’ll try way too hard to think of the right thing to say. You’ll be so focused on planning out how to respond to him that you’ll end up ignoring whatever he was busy saying, and then he’ll assume you weren’t interested in his story.
  4. You’re too worried about rejection. Since you don’t think you can land your crush, you’ll refuse to put yourself out there. You “know” that you’ll get your heart broken if you try to talk to him, which is why you’ll keep to yourself instead of going after what you want.
  5. You won’t accept a compliment. Some men get unreasonably angry when you say, “I know” after they tell you how beautiful you are. However, it’s just as off-putting to hear you reject the compliment, because it shows that you don’t value yourself.
  6. You wrongly assume you’re annoying him. Even though you want to keep the conversation going with your crush, you don’t want to waste his time, so you’ll stop texting him in the middle of a conversation. You’ll think you’re doing him a favor, but it’s really just ruining your chances of landing a date with him.
  7. Your standards aren’t high enough. If you don’t think you deserve a good guy, you might let a man use you for sex, or simply string you along for years. That’s why you might end up in an open relationship or a friends with benefits relationship, even though what you really want is a monogamous relationship.
  8. You get jealous easily. You think low of yourself, but you think highly of others. That’s why, when you see your crush talking to a pretty girl, you’ll assume that he’d rather be with her than date you.
  9. You wait for him to make the first move. Your idea of flirting is to stare at your crush until he walks over to you. When that doesn’t work, you’ll assume that he hates you, even though the reality is that he had no idea you were interested.
  10. You don’t know how sexy you are. Confidence is attractive. That’s why you need to realize how beautiful you are, so you can walk around with your head held high for all the boys to see.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.